Showing posts with label LDS Family Services. Show all posts
Showing posts with label LDS Family Services. Show all posts

Thursday, May 9, 2013

Spring days.



                                                                                                                        May 8, 2013


Dear Jack,

Just thinking about you and wondering how you are doing. I hope you are having a great day.  You are getting so big 2 and ½ wow, time is going by so quickly.  The days are getting warmer and summer is just around the corner, your cousin Boston loves to be outside. I am sure that you do too. 

There are so many great things for you to discover, and I am sure that you are a curious little guy.  Bugs and dirt are endless fun for little boys. Boston can spot and ant from quite a long ways away and loves to play trucks in piles of dirt.  Your daddy and Uncle Josh would practically live outside in the summer, climbing trees, riding bikes and playing with friends. 

Do you like to draw? Do you love music? Do you like dirt bikes and monster trucks like your cousin?  Are you outgoing and funny, or do you have a more mellow personality with a quick but sly since of humor?  Are you talking up a storm, and do you know your colors?  Do you know how much you are loved and missed, because you are so very much?

Jack, we want to know that we are all doing fine though we miss you daily life has continued on.  We have grown and changed because of what has happened over the last 2 ½ years, but it has not all been negative. There has been positive changes as well.  There are new cousins and weddings on the way, there have been fun family gatherings and vacations that are being planned.  Don’t worry about us, we won’t ever give up, but we will also continue to live life to the fullest as we wait for your return. 

Your daddy is doing well. He has big plans and his life is changing fast.  I know that you will be as proud of him as we all are. He is such a fun and loving man. We are so grateful to have him in our family.  He thinks of you and misses you all the time and only wants the best for you. Please always remember that.

If I could say anything to your adoptive parents it would be, we love you and only want the very best for you.  We are grateful to know where you are and that you are being loved and well cared. There is true comfort for your daddy and family in knowing those small yet very important things. So many fathers and families don't have that knowledge.   I understand it is difficult for them to put themselves in your daddy or our shoes; we have tried over and over to put ourselves in theirs.  Over time perhaps they will come to understand why we could never or will never give up on you.  Perhaps they are only listening to their attorney at this time and that is why they have not responded to our multiple requests to share information with them, including but not limited to all medical information.  We truly hope that one day soon they will open their hearts to the fact that you have a daddy and family that loves you and miss you so much. 

Remember Jack as you are reading this one day, this blog was our only way to reach out at the time to you.  It is where we could express our feelings, upcoming events, notices of court actions, as well as show support for others who have experienced the same loss.  This blog was never to cause pain, but instead a way to deal with ours as we wait for you to come home.  We do hope and pray that your adoptive parents will read this and understand that.  We will continue to pray for you and them daily, we truly only want the best for you.


Love

Grandma Jenny

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Dear Readers.


Dear readers,

This is Jackson’s grandma. I would like to personally thank each and every one of you for your support and love that you have continued to show us over the last two years.  We have had so many emotions, blessings and heartaches that we would not have been able to get through without the continued support of family and friends. 

I would like to write today in response to one comment recently posted on the blog under the post “Stealing from the married ones too” regarding an article in the Salt Lake Tribune written by Brooke Adams.  First I, we would like to say we do not normally respond to negative comments because everyone has the right to their own opinion and we have learned a great deal about all sides of adoption.  Emotions are high from each angle. We respect that.

Though this comment made a statement at the end which is totally untrue. Jake has not acted in any way “creepy” towards the birth mother or adoptive parents.  In fact Jake has from the beginning taken the high road, and tried to ensure that the names of the adoptive couple are not revealed.  He has not spoken with Whitney since the night that she told him that she had given Jackson up.  We have seen Whitney in court twice, while supporting Kyle(Whitney's ex husband) in a court hearing which involved two counts of child neglect that had been reported to DCFS.  But, none of our family spoke to Whitney. 

As far as reaching out to the adoptive couple, I placed two calls in April 2011, to the paternal grandparents requesting that the couple and Jake meet to share their sides of the story.  I did this because I know them, and had babysat for them as a teenager; one of the children I tended was the adoptive father.   We had a very respectful conversation for over an hour, I requested that they please discuss it with the adoptive couple and call me back in a week.  When we spoke the second time they had been instructed by their attorney, Larry Jenkins, to only go through their counsel and the courts when dealing with Jake.   I left all of our contact information and we hung up on very cordial terms.  

In fact my father, Jake’s grandfather, is still very good friends with adoptive grandparents and they see each other often.

In November 2011, I again was the one who wrote letters to the adoptive couple, grandparents, adoption agencies and attorneys.   This was not because Jake was not will or was not wanting to reach out.  I did it because I felt that as a mother, grandmother and concerned citizen it was my duty to do so.  Each of these letters are posted on the blog, in December 2011.  When we posted these letters Jake made sure that the names were redacted of all the adoptive family. 

This blog is set up for Jackson to be used as a journal and space to express emotions and spread Jack's story.  We hand out fliers everywhere we go, and have logos on our cars to get the word out about Jake and Jack’s story.  Again this is to help inform others of the abuse that is and has been happening in Utah adoptions as well as to help us deal with missing Jackson.

To imply that Jake has acted inappropriate towards the birth mother or the adoptive couple is just simply not true.  Jake has continued to fight in court for his right to parent his only child, he will continue to do so through the Utah Supreme Court.   We will also continue to work to change the laws in Utah to protect all parties in adoption, not just birth fathers.

Jake was with Whitney throughout her pregnancy, he did more than just financially support her.  They were together at family gatherings, Jack’s baby shower, Christmas events, and even at the lights the night before Jack was born.  Relationships are to be built on trust. Jake believed Whitney and even asked her around the middle of December if she was thinking of adoption – to which she responded “of course not, I can’t believe you would even ask me”.  Whitney’s only threat that Jake saw that was real at this time was that she would hold true to her word that if he did file on the paternity registry, if he did Whitney would receive notice, he would never see his son.  That is what Jake was told over and over by Whitney. That threat of not seeing his son was real if he filed. Jake watched how Whitney acted with Emery and her ex- husband.  Jake did not find out she was still married until the end of January 2011. Several others that know Whitney also believed that she was divorced.   Call it what you would like, fraud, deceit, manipulation but to ensure that Whitney was able to get what she wanted that is what she did. 

For a child who is in need of a loving home because their birth parent(s) cannot provide one for them for different reasons,then adoption is a blessing.  Most adoptive couples are trying to adopt because they cannot have their own biological children.  One way or another there has to be some type of loss for an adoptive child, sometimes it is for the adoptive parents as well.  Adoption has a lot of pain behind the veil of bliss that all would like to believe it is. 

To place a child into an adoptive situation when they have a loving father and family who has ALWAYS wanted, and can care for them is wrong.  Many adoptive children long for those who look like them, have their same genetic traits and talents.  It is not right to make the adoptive couple in fraudulent adoptions justify why they got to take the child home when their parents wanted them and did not place them for adoption.

Also, in fraudulent adoptions many things are left out such as medical information.  When both parents consent some agencies provide medical information, LDS family services is one agency that does.  But, because the social worker and Whitney did not want Jake involved, Jack has been denied his medical information.

Since we again know where Jack is, we have continued to reach out, we are willing to provide all information for Jack.  The adoptive couple’s attorney again has been the stumbling block.  But, all the adoptive couple has to do is to ask, even through their parents to Jake’s grandfather.  We have no other way to provide it.

Utah is a breeding ground for corruption because the laws have made fraudulent actions legal in adoption.  The truth is that these laws are only words on paper.  They will never change the fact that Jack is Jake’s son and part of our family.  Whether Jack comes home now, or is not able to connect with Jake until he is an adult we will be here for him.  Jack does not have to choose a family when he is an adult.  There is room for everyone, it is better to have more people in your life that love you.

We have NOT nor will we ever wish any ill will towards the adoptive couple.  We would never want Jack to be hurt or feel torn, but he has the right to the TRUTH and his FAMILY.

Dear adoptive parents of Jack, please love this little one with all of your heart.  Enjoy his every waking moment that he is in your care.  Take time to see the world through his baby blue eyes (I hope he got his daddy’s eyes).  Please don’t restrain his need for adventure, let him be curious and make mistakes to learn from.  If he takes after his daddy, you will love his outgoing funny personality, his true love for people, his wonderfully kind heart and trusting nature.   

Most of all treasure Jack as Jake does and love him enough to let him know his family. 

Sincerely, 

Jack's Grandma


Saturday, December 15, 2012

Isn't it Ironic?

Thinking of our upcoming court date and the endless possibilities that it could mean for Jackson and our family, allows our minds to run wild. I came across a blog today that was sharing the news of an upcoming baby and the name they were choosing for their son, Jack.Over the past few years, the name Jack and Jackson have resurfaced and have made gains in popularity again. When Jake and Whitney found out they were having a boy, they both agreed on the name Jackson, but Jake knew he would be calling him Jack, after his great grandpa Jack. Throughout these past two years, I have never looked into the meaning of Jack, but ran into that meaning tonight.

The Hebrew definition of Jack means God is Gracious, or Gracious Gift of God. WOW! Isn't this true? There is so much a name can say about a person and I feel like this definition was meant to be shared with us at this time. We hope that court on Wednesday, God will be gracious in helping Judge Hamilton do the right thing, and re-unite Jake and Jack, father and son. We know in the bottom of hearts that this will come.

We hope more than anything that Jake will receive a Christmas wish, and get the opportunity to meet his son. Even to begin if it's only for a few hours, he will take it at this point.

Thank you for the prayers, and please continue to pray for Jack, Jake, Judge Hamilton and our family this week as we head to court.

Sincerely,

Aunt Heidi

Monday, September 3, 2012

Not a coincidence.

Jackson:
 
We took family photos on Saturday and of course we missed you deeply. It's PAINFUL when people ask how many kids will be there. We have to say one, but we want to shout "Well, there should be two!." It's so disheartening you are not with us. We were at an amazing studio called Camera Shy and on one of their amazing walls that had chalkboard paint had Jack already wrote on the wall. It was meant to be there we know it. It was a great reminder of you. You were with us there in spirit.
 
Jackson, everywhere we go we are reminded of you. We will never forget you. We hope this a good indicator we can be reunited soon. Your daddy is missing you.  Your cousin Boston is getting so big, so we can only imagine that you are growing like a weed as well. Eat lots of food so you can grow and be a strong boy.  
 

:::Your Family:::
 
We LOVE you so so much.

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

The news...

Sorry to keep you all waiting in anticipation of the news from Judge Hamilton. On Saturday, we received the devastating news that our motion to intervene in the adoption was DENIED. Judge Hamilton solely could not rule in Jake's favor due to not filing timely according to Utah Law, even though he stated that the birth mother, Whitney Pettersson Rathjen Demke, defrauded Jake intentionally out of his child. The judge did not even address the constitutionality issues or due process. Our attorney feels that he didn't even want to address this and let the Supreme Court rule on this.

Jake is needing time to think through the next step in this emotional journey. Prayers, thoughts, and positive vibes sent his way would be greatly appreciated.

Hopefully, we will have more news on the what is to come next in the coming week. We will never give up on Jackson and will never stop fighting to get the laws changed here in Utah. More and more we keep seeing father's being denied the rights to parent their children. WHY??? Why would we deny a willing, and capable father the right to parent, when so many children grow up without a father figure or role model in their life and strive to have one.

We will never back down until the law is fair for ALL parties involved in adoption. All meaning, birth mother, birth father, adoptive parents and most importantly the CHILD. We need to seriously consider as society what message we are sending to our future generation of children who are placed for adoption illegally, unethical and based on fraudulently practices.

What will the adoptive couple say to Jackson when he asks why he has dark hair and not light hair like his parents? Will they lie to him and not tell him he is adoptive? Or will they only tell him bits and pieces about his adoption? Surely, they can't answer the truth, that he is with them due to them winning in court based on fraud, lies and dishonesty.

We will have Jackson in our lives one way or another. It's only a matter of time. We hope and pray everyday that Jackson is loved, cared for and is a healthy vibrant child. If only we knew for certain.....


JACKSON MICHAEL STRICKLAND
we love you and will never give up!!!

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Missing you...

Jack:

My sweet boy, I have been thinking a lot about you lately. I have definitely not forgotten about you. Easter was on Sunday and as with every holiday my heart ached as I long for you. A huge chunk of my heart is missing and it's waiting for you to fill that void. Jack, I think about you all day everyday and just hope you are well taken care of. I have asked to see you from a far, a picture, a health update anything to settle my heavy heart, and my request was denied. Jack, I know one day I will get to share my love with you. As time goes on, my love only gets stronger for you, not weaker. I hope we get a court date within the next week to intervene in the adoption. I hope that this will all come to an end real soon. I just want you here in my arms, where you are suppose to be.

Jackson, I love you with all my heart. I will never stop fighting.

XoXo,

Daddy Jake

Sunday, April 1, 2012

A contested adoption can take years to resolve





Families • Lengthy process psychologically hard for all — especially a child


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Rob Manzanares, shown here with his son, is still entangled in a custody fight for a daughter born to a former girlfriend and placed for adoption in Utah. Courtesy of Robert Manzanares

Four years ago, as it returned a young boy to his biological father, the Utah Supreme Court expressed alarm that contested adoptions were taking so long to resolve and urged that such cases be put on a fast track.

In that particular case, the child was 18 months old when his mother placed him for adoption and the father sought to intervene, a legal battle that ended in the dad’s favor nearly three years later.

“We anticipate that, in the future, every effort will be made to avoid delay in cases like this,” the court said, asking that the boy be reunited with his father with “all due haste” while paying “special attention” to the child’s needs.

“This transition may be hardest for him, and his needs must come first,” the justices said in the 2007 decision.

But there is no indication that the time it takes for contested adoptions to work through Utah’s court system has improved, leaving some observers to repeat calls for an expedited process like that used in child welfare cases to reach quicker final decisions and lessen psychological trauma when a placement is disrupted.

Robert Manzanares, for example, began a custody bid for his daughter more than a month before her birth in 2008, filing first in Colorado and then here in Utah. The case wound its way from a lower court to the Utah Supreme Court over 2½ years. Utah’s high court then took 15 months to issue a decision — in Manzanares’ favor — sending the case back to trial court for more debate over who has the right to raise the child. Last week, a Utah judge agreed to dismiss the case so the girl’s custody can be decided in Colorado; those proceedings will likely continue for at least several more months.

Manzanares’ daughter is now 4 years old.

“These kids are growing up fast,” said Joshua Peterman, a Salt Lake City attorney who has represented several unwed biological fathers in bids to stop or reverse adoptions. “There is a big difference between removing a child who is less than a year old from her home and taking a 4-year-old out of a home. It’s essentially a failure of the system to protect them. They should be moving a lot quicker.”

Protracted adoption cases don’t just involve unwed biological fathers.

A biological mother who placed her baby for adoption at birth sought to reverse the decision months later after alleging she’d been misled about the adoptive parents’ capabilities. The boy was nearly 6 by the time the Utah Supreme Court issued an opinion that returned the case to the appeals court so the mother could argue for custody.

In the majority opinion, issued in 2006, Justice Ronald E. Nehring lamented the “very human saga that has played out on the stage of our courts.”

“We hold fast to the hope that in the near future E.H. will know who his parents will be and where he will call home,” Nehring wrote, adding that the word “unfortunate” greatly “understates our concern for the harmful effects that years of litigation have visited on this young man.”

In that case, the mother ultimately lost her fight.

David Hardy, a Salt Lake City attorney who represents the birth mother in the Manzanares case, said members of the Utah Adoption Council have discussed the need for an expedited track for contested adoptions but so far nothing has happened.

A 2010 article in the Journal of Law & Family Studies made the case for a “speedy court process” like that used for juvenile court shelter hearings and appeals in child welfare cases, noting that the “lack of a specific rule for expediting contested adoption cases means that appeals take years.” According to the article, 90 percent of termination of parental rights and voluntary relinquishment cases between Oct. 1, 2008, and Sept. 30, 2009, were completed within a year.

“A similar expedited timeframe for contested adoption cases would better serve the best interests of the child, the father and the adoptive parents,” the article states.

But despite “some discussion” there has so far been “no real action,” Hardy said. And so the lengthy legal battles continue.

Another example: Floridian Ramsey Shaud, one of Peterman’s clients, filed a paternity action in Utah three days before his daughter’s birth on Jan. 15, 2010. Four months later a lower court judge ruled he had not strictly complied with Utah’s strict adoption law, which requires notice of a paternity action to be filed within a day of birth. Although Shaud filed his paperwork on time, it wasn’t recorded by the state’s Office of Vital Records and Statistics until Jan. 20, 2010, because of a holiday and the state’s then four-day work week.

Shaud appealed and the Utah Supreme Court heard arguments in Shaud’s case on September 2011. If the past is a guide, Shaud’s daughter will be nearly 3 before the court issues its decision in the case.

“The appellate process is a slow process … no matter what kind of case,” said Linda Smith, a professor at the S.J. Quinney College of Law at the University of Utah and the attorney who represented the birth mom in the 2006 case. “From the time the trial concludes until you get a decision from the Utah Supreme Court, it’s a year and if you go through the appeals court, it is two years.”

But, “in issues of custody, especially when a child might change families, it is wrong to take this long,” she said.

The prospect that a judge’s own heart strings may be pulled is a liability of protracted cases, one that may lead to “ends-mean thinking” where emotions influence decisions, Smith said. The Utah Supreme Court distanced itself from emotional decision making in its 2007 decision, noting in its opinion that: “Once an unmarried biological father has established standing to contest, and does in fact contest, an adoption, the level of bonding between child and anyone other than the biological parents becomes legally irrelevant.”

But the best way for courts to ensure fair and rational decisions is to deal with a case early enough that “heartstrings aren’t tugged,” Smith said. “They should institute a rule where they would fast track these cases, not allow any extensions and the timeframe might be truncated.”

David McConkie, an adoption attorney who now works for LDS Church Family Services, has handled cases where children were removed from adoptive families.

“The hardest cases the courts ever deal with are cases when they’ve got a baby being raised in a home and they’ve got to remove that child from a home,” he said. “But judges will follow the law, and they will apply the law and say if the father’s rights were violated under the statutes of whatever state you’re in, they’ll remove those children from that home. It happens more than you think.”

But there is no question that the more time that passes, the more uncomfortable the prospect of disrupting a placement becomes for nearly all those involved — a situation that would seem to benefit prospective adoptive parents.

“My experience generally is that adoptive couples want resolution and don’t generally seek to specifically drag things out,” Hardy said. “They may recognized that is to their advantage, but they won’t take steps to specifically drag things out. In my experience, it is generally the system that drags it out, not one party or another that does so.”

Hardy said he has had several cases, most outside of Utah, in which a judge was “very reluctant” to disrupt custody because a child had been with adoptive parents for a lengthy period. Instead, the judge urged the parties to come up with an alternative, such as shared custody or visitation.

That’s happened in a few Utah cases, too, after Utah Supreme Court decisions issued opinions favoring an unwed father’s right to intervene in an adoption proceeding.

The months and years of uncertainty are stressful for all the adults, no doubt, but the greatest concern is for the well-being of the child at the center of these adoption disputes.

Doug Goldsmith, executive director of The Children’s Center in Salt Lake City, said at the point a trial judge makes a finding, a child is typically no older than a year or so.

“The months that subsequently pass, especially when the father has not had any contact, are critical to the child’s psychological health,” he said, adding that fathers face a “significant complication” in that toddlers and preschool-age children are too young to grasp what a “dad” is.

“One of the things we know with attachment research is that after the age of 2 it gets more difficult to move children successfully,” Goldsmith said. “And moving a 4-year-old who says, ‘This is mommy and daddy’ is a very different story than moving a child who is not quite that developed yet.”

And, he points out, a child isn’t just being removed from the adoptive parents. There is a whole community — siblings, extended relatives, people the child may know at church or school, even the family pets — who are left behind.

“It’s really, really complicated but we don’t have great answers for it yet,” he said. Ideally, it would be sorted out before birth, or at least by the time an infant is 6 months old, he added.

That’s one of the objectives of the voluntary pre-birth notice provision just approved by the Utah Legislature, Hardy said. The provision allows a birth mother, adoption agency or their attorneys to send an unwed father a notice that the mother is considering an adoption proceeding in Utah and giving him 30 days to fully assert his rights under the state’s statute.

Ideally, an unwed father shouldn’t have to intervene, which would greatly shorten the process, said Erik Smith, an Ohio attorney who years ago engaged in his own custody battle. “You want to have timely registration and then get notice and a hearing right away,” he said. “If you have to intervene, you’re too late already.”

“It’s a bummer for everybody, in my opinion, mostly for the child and the contesting parent,” he said. “Regardless of whether he or she, usually he, wins or loses, it’s a very stressful time and your anxiety is high. You know your child is getting older every day that goes by and you’re losing that experience. You miss that part of life. And if a child is taken out of a home at a later age … that’s hard on the child and the adoptive parents.”

brooke@sltrib.com


Contested adoptions

According to court data, there have been just 16 contested adoption cases in 3rd District Court, the state’s largest, since 2005. That count may not include paternity actions filed by unwed biological fathers.

On average it took judges in the 3rd District court 535 days to resolve the contested adoption cases heard between 2005 and 2011. The average number of days cases were pending last year: 777.

Go to sltrib.com to see a timeline of one contested adoption case.


© 2012 The Salt Lake Tribune

Saturday, February 11, 2012

HB308

This past week has been very exciting for progress in finally changing the adoption laws in the state of Utah regarding unwed father's rights. Although, HB308 didn't ultimately fix every problem with the current law, it was a great step to show the legislative that there is major problem with the current law. On Monday, the committee over HB308 decided to put a hold on the bill until Thursday to give more time to research some questions that were brought up.

On Thursday, the courtroom was full of emotional testimony and truly showed the major flaws that are currently in the adoption laws. I will be posting videos of testimony from David Hardy, Jenny Graham, Dan Deuel, Lisa Harris, Donna Pope, and a few others.

The committee voted 5-3 that this bill needs to be put on hold until the Summer to get more of the major kinks worked out. They saw the great need for reform and wanted to get it right, not just put a bill into place that wouldn't truly solve the problem at hand.

Although, this bill was a step in the right direction it ultimately still did not take fraud out of the law. We have been working with Wes Hutchins, President of the Utah Adoption Council, as well as the sponsor of this bill Christine Watkins of Price, to suggest ways we can make this bill truly effective to protect father's rights.

Wes Hutchins, an adoptive father, and an adoption attorney, has become a strong advocate for us in helping get the laws changed. He will be on the radio on Monday, February 13th, 2012 at 9:00 AM on radio station KCPW, NPR 88.3 FM, 105.3 FM. He will be talking about the bill, adoption reform, the ruling on the Robert Manzanares Case, etc. Please tune in or call in to discuss this topic.

Thank you again for all of your support. We are making a difference!

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

We need your help!

Thank you so much for all of your support with getting our sweet little baby Jackson Michael Strickland back. Thank you for signing the petition and spreading the word on many blogs, facebook pages, twitter, etc. We have had many people ask how they can help and this is how you can. You can help change the Utah adoption laws.  House Bill 308 represented by Christine Watkins is revising the current adoption laws for unwed father's. There is a hearing tomorrow, Feb. 9th 2012, at the Utah State Capitol builidng at 4:00 PM. We need people to flood the court room in support of this bill passing. Although, this bill will not help with getting our sweet little Jack back, it will help future father's and families not have to deal with the heartache we have endure the past year. The hearing will be located in the Northwest building, the house building, in room 25W.

We can not thank you enough for how much this support will mean to us and all of the unwed father's out there.

Thank you and God Bless!

The Strickland Family

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Unfortunately

Unfortunately court did not go as we hoped on Tuesday. Judge Christiansen said that this case really disturbed him and even had called up Judge Kay in 2nd District and talked with him about the details of this case. Christiansen stated that since Larry Jenkins, and David Hardy went up to 2nd District behind his back, he no longer had jurisdiction over this case. He said the next step would be to petition the adoption up in 2nd District and try to plead our case to Judge Kay and try to get the adoption set aside. There is a grim reality for us that this is the end of these court actions, and our next step after 2nd District would be to appeal to the Utah Supreme Court. We still are baffled because no one has  ruled yet that Jake DID not file timely even though that has been LDS Family Services argument.

We are still hoping and praying for a positive outcome. We would love more than anything to meet this sweet little boy of ours. There is not a day that goes by that we don't think of Jackson. He is such a special little boy and he will always have a special place in our hearts.

Thank you so much for all of the sweet words of encouragement. It truly helps us get through some of the days.

Jackson, we love you so much. One day, you will get to meet your sweet daddy, and the family that loved you first. We love you always and forever.

Monday, January 16, 2012

Tomorrow

We will be in court tomorrow at 1:30 PM in front of Judge Christiansen. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers that he will see the injustice occurring and keep our case alive.

THANK YOU!

Thursday, January 5, 2012

A step in the right direction



Unwed fathers get help figuring out what to do in adoption fight 
Adoption • Registry form and instructions made more accessible.
For an unwed father who wants to know what to do to protect his parental rights in a Utah adoption proceeding, the process just got easier.
The state Department of Health on Tuesday made the paternity proceeding form and instructions on how to file with Utah’s putative father registry available on the website of the Office of Vital Records and Statistics, which maintains the registry.
Department Director David Patton said the change and other reforms were prompted by a recent Salt Lake Tribune series highlighting the difficulty unwed fathers and attorneys — especially those from out-of-state — had finding information about the registry.
The paternity proceeding form now can be found under the “court orders” link on the Vital Records home page, although the information still doesn’t show up when searching the state website for key terms such as “putative father” or “paternity proceeding.”
There are plans to add information about how to file with the registry to the website’s “frequently asked questions” listing. The form also will now be available at county health departments throughout Utah — a measure required by state law the department hadn’t followed.
“Frankly, I had not been aware of this issue very much and so the article helped us to review the statute, which I think was our primary concern,” Patton said. “We want to be in compliance with the statute.”
The online access makes sense, he said.
Since 1975, Utah has required unwed fathers to file with the state in order to receive notice of an adoption proceeding for a biological newborn child. That requirement was strengthened in 1995, when sweeping revisions were made requiring unwed fathers to initiate a paternity action in court and file a “notice of commencement of paternity proceeding” with Vital Records.
But scores of unwed fathers, many of whom live in other states, allege Utah intentionally makes it difficult figure out how to protect their rights when they object to an adoption.
Patton said Tuesday it was his goal to make the form available to anyone who wants it.
“There is no reason to restrict that access,” he said. “If we can make it available as many places as feasible, that’s not a problem.”
The move received cautious support from two lawyers who have been involved in putative father issues.
“The purpose of the putative father registry is to identify putative fathers who are interested in assuming the responsibilities of being a parent in a meaningful and timely way,” said David McConkie, now children’s services manager at LDS Family Services. “The state’s decision to put the registry online will help putative fathers accomplish this and will make adoptive placements more secure.”
Daniel Drage, a lawyer who has represented out-of-state fathers in custody fights, called it a “step in the right direction” but also expressed concern.
“These fathers still need to understand that just filing with the registry is not the only step,” Drage said. “Some dads may think it is all they need to do. I hope it is not a bit of a pitfall.”
Janice Houston, director of Vital Records, said the instruction letter included with the form hopefully alerts fathers they also need to file a paternity action in court. And the form itself asks for the paternity filing case number.
Houston said the form hasn’t been available online previously because her office’s web page is “very minimal and basic at best” and hasn’t “had the resources devoted to it to put a whole lot of information up there beyond the bare minimum.”
The office quit providing forms to county health department offices, Houston said, because local offices aren’t involved in adoptions and just forward the forms to the state office.
“When the form was there, it wasn’t being utilized,” she added.
Both Patton and Houston also said Tuesday the form has been available through the courts to print out and give to putative fathers. But a court clerk manager and 3rd District Court administrator both said they were unaware of the forms.
“We don’t have a form,” said Julie Rigby, team manager of the 3rd District Court’s Probate Department, which handles adoption filings. “We would just refer them to the health department. We don’t have anything and never had and wish we did, but we don’t.”
Houston, who became state registrar in March 2010, said it is her policy to give paternity commencement filings “precedence over everything else in the office.” “When one of these comes in, it’s a drop everything else and put it in,” she said. “It doesn’t sit in a pile and wait.”
The Utah Supreme Court is currently considering a case in which a Florida father alleges the state’s four-day work week and a tardy filing of his registration by a Vital Records clerk caused him to lose the right to intervene in his daughter’s adoption.
brooke@sltrib.com
Putative father registry form goes online
O To access the online paternity proceeding form, which can be filled out online and then printed, go to: http://1.usa.gov/wGm4w0

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Monday, January 2, 2012

A glimmer of hope

We have a small glimmer of hope... We have an upcoming court date. January 17th at 1:30 PM in front of Judge Christiansen. We finally will be heard, and we hope that he feels as disgusted with opposing counsel on part of LDS Family Services, David Hardy, and the adoptive couple, Larry Jenkins, as we do. We have faith that he will do what is right, and intervene in the adoption, and call for an evidentiary hearing again. We really have been beat down these past few weeks, and really need a ray of sunshine.

If anyone would like to attend, please contact us and we can provide the details.

Thanks again for all for your continued support through these trying times.

Sunday, January 1, 2012

Baby Emma Wyatt appeals to U.S. Supreme Court

John Wyatt, we truly hope the U.S. Supreme Court hears your case, and overturns the wrongful decisions made by the Utah Court System. God Bless!



Virginia man asks U.S. high court to hear adoption case
Laws • Utah judge ruled the father acted too late to protect his rights.
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Steve Griffin | Tribune file photo John Wyatt listens as the Utah Supreme Court hears arguments in the Baby Emma case in September 2010. Wyatt, of Dumfries, Va., is trying to get custody of his daughter, Emma, who was given up for adoption to a Utah couple by the girl's mother without his consent.
A Virginia father has asked the U.S. Supreme Court to review his battle for custody of his daughter, arguing his case presents a “head-on collision” caused by conflicting rulings in different states and showcases how Utah’s adoption law is “effectively projecting its authority well beyond its borders.”
The Parental Kidnapping Prevention Act (PKPA), a federal law that sets a “first in time” rule for interstate custody disputes, is designed to prevent both problems but was “undermined” by the Utah Supreme Court’s July 2011 ruling against John Wyatt, he argues in a petition to the justices.
When an unmarried father such as Wyatt is in one state and prospective adoptive parents in another, there is great potential for “jurisdictional friction” if more than one state is allowed to address custody issues, the petition states. The petition asks the court to review whether the PKPA applied to the adoption case since Wyatt had filed a timely custody action under Virginia law and whether Utah violated Wyatt’s rights by shutting him out of the adoption proceeding involving his daughter.
“Given the overriding importance of the interests at stake, it is especially important that the ground rules for multi-jurisdictional adoption disputes be as clear, fair and consistent as the courts — including this court — can make them,” the petition states.
The U.S. Supreme Court has issued a handful of decisions regarding unmarried fathers’ rights in adoption proceedings, but none of those rulings involved newborn infants. It will likely be six months or so before the court decides whether to grant a review.
Since 2008, higher courts in Utah have reviewed seven cases involving unwed fathers who lost custody fights despite filing timely paternity actions in their home states to protect their rights. The Utah Supreme Court is weighing a decision in a case involving a Colorado father that involves questions about the PKPA.
“Obviously, it is an important and recurring issue,” said Clifton S. Elgarten, a Washington, D.C.-based attorney who is representing Wyatt. “The Supreme Court doesn’t take many cases, but we’re hopeful they will see the wisdom of considering this one.”
Utah attorney Larry S. Jenkins, who represents the adoption agency, said Friday he is still considering whether to file a response.
Wyatt learned in May 2008 that Emily Colleen Fahland, his then-19-year-old girlfriend, was pregnant. According to court documents, on Feb. 4, 2009, Fahland informed Wyatt by telephone that she had spoken with A Act of Love Adoption Agency, based in Utah. She sent a text message the next day that said: “Do you understand that I’m receiving information from a Utah agency for proceeding with an adoption.”
But Wyatt said he thought Fahland was just gathering information and that their co-parenting plan was still in place.
Unbeknownst to Wyatt, Fahland gave birth on Feb. 10, 2009, and a day later signed a document agreeing to waive Virginia law and proceed with an adoption in Utah. Wyatt learned of the birth on Feb. 11 but was initially unable to locate Fahland, who had checked out of the hospital and into a hotel under an assumed name.
A Utah couple flew to Virginia on Feb. 12 to pick up the infant. That same day, Fahland relinquished her parental rights. Wyatt hand-delivered a letter to the adoption agency’s Virginia attorney on Feb. 12 requesting to see his daughter and take her home. Wyatt said he was told he could see the infant only if he consented to the adoption. He refused.
Eight days after Baby Emma’s birth, Wyatt filed a custody action in Virginia. By then, the adoptive parents had returned to Utah with the baby and, on Feb. 23, began adoption proceedings here.
From that point on, court proceedings unfolded in both Utah and Virginia. In Virginia, a judge confirmed Wyatt’s rights to his child. In Utah, a judge ruled Wyatt acted too late to protect his rights since he filed a custody action in Virginia after Fahland consented to the adoption and did not file with putative-father registries in Virginia or Utah until April. The judge also said she saw “no legal basis for deferring” to the Virginia court’s decision that it had jurisdiction in the case.
In July, the Utah Supreme Court upheld that decision. It also found that Wyatt could not invoke the federal kidnapping law because he had not used it to support his case in the lower court. One justice argued that the PKPA doesn’t apply to adoption disputes.
In the writ of certiorari, filed Dec. 15, Wyatt notes that the Utah Supreme Court did not say when or how he might have raised the PKPA argument earlier since he was barred from participating in the adoption proceeding. He also argues that Utah requires a father to comply with the law in his home state before a mother consents to an adoption — whether or not that is the same deadline set by his home state.
“Utah law required that he fulfill Virginia’s requirements more quickly than Virginia itself requires — in this case, before the baby was born and before he knew there would be any contest over his custodial rights, let alone a contest in Utah,” the petition states. The Utah law also “fosters fraud and deception on an unmarried father by the mother or unscrupulous adoption agencies” but then burdens the victim with anticipating such acts, which raises “troubling due-process questions.”
In fact, Wyatt said he did timely assert his rights under Virginia law, as acknowledged by a judge in that state. The petition also argues that Virginia requires a birth mother to identify and provide notice of a pending adoption to a “reasonably ascertained” father and to wait three days before consenting to an adoption, which are rules Wyatt says Fahland violated.
The Virginia court, under the PKPA, had jurisdiction to decide who received custody of Baby Emma, Wyatt argues. Instead, the Utah Supreme Court has “re-injected ambiguity and the potential for sharp conflict between states that the PKPA had seemingly eliminated with its jurisdictional command,” Wyatt argues, and “widens a split among state courts” in interpretations of the federal law.
brooke@sltrib.com

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Thursday, December 29, 2011

Happy Birthday Jackson

Jackson,

Happy Birthday! It has been one long year. We have missed so many milestones with you such as your birth, your first bath, your first cry, your first word, you starting to crawl, and maybe even walk. Our hearts are heavy that we have not been able to see you, know if you are ok, are happy or even healthy. More than anything we hope that you are safe, and ok. We miss you and think about you every single day. We hope to meet you soon, but in the meantime we will keep fighting for you and for all the other voiceless children out there.

We have created a video for you from your family, and that includes a balloon release we did in honor of your first birthday. We wish more than anything that we would be able to celebrate it with you, but it doesn't look like that is going to happen. We will continue to do a balloon release every year you are not with us.



Happy Birthday Jackson!
May all your dreams come true.

Love,

Your Family




Monday, December 26, 2011

Day 2 of Salt Lake Tribune Adoption Articles



Utah adoption law: model for nation or unjust burden?
Rights • Fathers have limited opportunity to fight the system.
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Paul Fraughton | The Salt Lake Tribune David McConkie, who works for LDS Family Services, talks about programs and policies behind putative father registries.
More than three years after a Utah judge ruled he had failed to protect his parental rights, Rob Manzanares is still fighting for custody of his now nearly four-year-old daughter.
He has met her just once. The girl’s adoptive parents brought her to a court hearing in December 2009 and, before it began, Manzanares stood in a tiny meeting room and held his daughter for the first time.
“I didn’t want to cry too much,” he said. “I didn’t want to scare my daughter.”
At that meeting, Manzanares said he was offered a deal: Drop the legal fight and “there’s an opportunity to have visitation.” He refused and, more than a year after a hearing before the Utah Supreme Court, is still waiting a decision in a case that highlights how competing interests of unwed fathers and social policy can complicate adoption.
“It is my flesh and blood, she’s my child,” said Manzanares, 34, of Colorado. “I should have a right to raise my child first, over anybody.”
Related story • Stopping an adoption: In Utah, fathers rarely win • http://bit.ly/uT51Tc
That is not the way the law sees it, as a Utah Supreme Court justice argued bluntly in 2007:Men who father a child outside of marriage must take steps to assert a legal relationship to a child or “risk losing it altogether.”
That “biology plus” view is enshrined in a handful of U.S. Supreme Court decisions, as well as adoption laws in Utah and numerous states. Utah’s adoption law explicitly puts men on notice that sex outside of marriage may result in a pregnancy and an adoption. It is up to him alone, the law says, to protect any claim to a child born in those circumstances.
Perhaps it is due to a lack of awareness, financial resources or simple disinterest, but few do. Some men who have tried to follow Utah law say the state purposefully makes it difficult to comply.
“It is these rare cases where you have a mom who, for whatever reason, wants to cut dad out of the decision making and a very active dad who wants to participate that makes the news and makes the law,” said Lisa Kelly, a University of Washington Law School professor and co-author of an adoption law textbook.
They may be rare, but such cases have surfaced with surprising frequency recently in Utah, where marriage is widely seen as a sacred institution and, in adoption cases, rights of unmarried fathers are narrow.
Unwed fathers had no custody rights at all until 1970, when the Utah Supreme Court found that holding a man financially responsible for his illegitimate offspring also entitled him to “custody and control as against all but the mother.”
Though just 10.7 percent of all births in the U.S. that year were to unmarried women, a seismic cultural change regarding illegitimacy was already in motion. As more women opted to keep their babies, states began to lean more heavily on unwed fathers to provide financial support for those offspring. At the same time, it left them out of most adoption decisions.
Then came a ground-breaking 1972 U.S. Supreme Court finding that a state could not remove three children from their father’s care after their mother’s death without a hearing simply because the parents, together for 18 years, had never married. In subsequent rulings, the court recognized Constitutional rights of unwed fathers who have a substantial relationship with their children but held that, sans a legal or substantial relationship, states could require such fathers to take steps, such as signing with a registry, to be entitled to notice of proceedings.
Utah established such a requirement in 1975 and strengthened it two decades later in sweeping revisions to the state’s adoption law. Reflecting the predominately Mormon Legislature’s view, one lawmaker observed during debate that “it is wrong to have children outside of marriage,” according to a 2009 article in the Journal of Law & Family Studies. A handwritten note on drafting instructions for the legislation read: “Change adoption law as we know it and test the bounds of Constitutional protection for biological fathers.”
As revised in 1995, the law says fraud by the mother — hiding a pregnancy or a plan to give birth in or pursue adoption in Utah — does not excuse an unwed father’s failure to act. However, it allows an out-of-state father to argue he had no prior knowledge his child would be born in or adopted in Utah, acted within 20 days of discovering the fact to comply with state law and previously protected his rights in his own state.
In Manzanares’ case, a Utah judge found Carie Terry, his daughter’s mother, deliberately deceived him and concealed information from judges in Utah and Colorado. Despite that, Manzanares’ attempt to derail the adoption failed because, by his own admission, he feared Terry might give birth in Utah but failed to take timely action here, the judge said.
“We believe the district court ultimately came to the correct decision,” said attorney David Hardy, who represented Terry at a late stage in the case.
Attorney David McConkie, who helped craft the legislation, calls Utah’s strict law a model for the nation.
The law requires a two-step process that includes filing with the registry and initiating a paternity action in court, along with submission of a detailed child care plan — though there’s no guidance on how to satisfy that mandate. One father who vowed to “assume all financial responsibilities,” for example, fell short of the mark. The Utah Court of Appeals ruled he had failed to specifically say how he’d earn that money or “identify who will care for the child while he is working to earn that income.”
Utah’s law is aimed at balancing the interests of all parties — the state, the mother, the biological father, the infant, the adoptive parents, said McConkie, now manager of children’s services at LDS Family Services, which arranges adoptions through its 62 offices in the U.S. and abroad and is owned by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
“There’s going to be cases where it doesn’t work very well, but you can’t craft a law around a specific case,” said McConkie. “You’ve got to craft a law that meets society’s interests and the parties’ interests more generally.”
What interests? Privacy, speedily finding homes for infants, ensuring those placements are final, and, most important of all, determining what’s best for a child, he said. Yes, interests sometimes conflict, he said.
“The mother has one way that she would like to go and the father has a way that he would like to go,” McConkie said. “And that’s a huge issue in this type of legislation — what do you do with this conflict of interest?”
Terry, for instance, testified in a Utah court hearing that she repeatedly told Manzanares that, despite his objections, she thought their child needed the “two-parent home” that adoption would provide “versus a hostile, stressful, anger situation.”
Critics such as Erik T. Smith of Ohio, a nationally recognized expert in putative father issues, say Utah’s answer has been to make the “window of opportunity as small as it can be” for unwed fathers to assert rights. But an even bigger problem, according to Smith, is most unmarried men don’t have the slightest inkling what the law requires — and McConkie doesn’t disagree with him.
At present, there is no information about the registry on the websites of the Utah Department of Health or Office of Vital Statistics, the state division charged with maintaining the registry, and the office won’t mail forms to fathers or their representatives, requiring them instead to appear in person.
“The thing I think is the hardest about Utah law, and I’m sensitive to this, is that fathers don’t know about it,” said McConkie. “I don’t know how you solve that problem, unless it’s advertised more.”
Another issue, as numerous unmarried fathers who don’t live in Utah have discovered: a judge in his home state may make a paternity finding but then be unable to address custody because the child resides and is part of an adoption proceeding here. As of 2010, Utah law specifically says a paternity order doesn’t entitle an out-of-state father to participate in such hearings, a change that came after several rulings in Manzanares’ tangled case.
Manzanares filed a paternity action in Colorado on Jan. 16, 2008, more than a month before his daughter’s birth. On Feb. 20, 2008, the day a hearing was set on the matter, Terry called the court and said she was unable to attend because she was in Utah visiting her sick father. What Terry didn’t disclose is that she’d given birth prematurely in Utah three days earlier and that very morning had signed papers before a Utah judge relinquishing the baby.
Nine days later, after the child’s birth was revealed, the Colorado court granted paternity, rights and responsibility for the infant to Manzanares. In July, a different Utah judge ordered the infant turned over to Manzanares, only to reverse the decision a week later and order another hearing. While the judge later vacated the court order approving Terry’s consent to the adoption, he ruled in August 2009 that Manzanares had not adequately protected his parental rights here, triggering his appeal.
Such lengthy court battles are typical and, some say, may erect a final, insurmountable hurdle for unwed fathers: If a father is found to have preserved his rights, a court then weighs his parental fitness and the child’s best interests, including the emotional and psychological impact of disrupting bonds between a child and the only parents he or she has ever known — although the Utah Supreme Court said in a 2007 decision such bonds are “legally irrelevant.”
The slow process prompted the author of a 2010 article in the Journal of Law and Family Studies to urge lawmakers to expedite adoption hearings, as done in child welfare cases.
Utah attorney Phil Lowry, who represented a North Carolina father in his failed custody bid, doesn’t expect solutions to such problems any time soon. Unwed fathers are an “under-represented group of individuals. And there are going to continue be problems for them and it is only going to get more aggravated as marriage becomes more fragmented,” he said.
Editor’s note
This is the second of four stories examining adoption in the context of unmarried fathers’ rights under Utah law.
Coming Tuesday • The as yet untold case of Jake Strickland, whose story painfully illustrates there is no defense in Utah law for fathers who may be misled by a mother or agency.
By the numbers: A look at 2010
52,164 • Utah Births
9,891 • Utah births to unmarried women
41 percent • U.S. births to unmarried women
19 percent • Utah births to unmarried women
30 • Filings in Utah’s putative father registry
1.3 percent • Estimate of unmarried women who choose adoption, U.S.
Source: Utah Office of Vital Statistics; U.S. Census; Centers for Disease Control and Prevention; Salt Lake Tribune reports
LDS Family Services
The agency, a party in at least 10 of the 27 high court decisions reviewed by The Salt Lake Tribune, is owned by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The church urges unmarried women to pursue adoption because they are generally unable to provide a stable, nurturing environment and because “unwed parents are not able to provide the blessings of the sealing covenant.” The faith believes that covenant ties a family together on earth and in heaven.
Excerpts from Utah court rulings
“It is conceivable, however, that a situation may arise when it is impossible for the father to file the required notice of paternity prior to the statutory bar, through no fault of his own. Due process requires that he be permitted to show that he was not afforded a reasonable opportunity to comply with the statute.”
“Those who conceive children outside the bonds of marriage may be loving parents, but experience teaches that the number of illegitimate children born each year contribute disproportionately to many of the serious social problems with which society must cope.”
Utah’s law “was not created to encourage a ‘race’ for placement to cut off the rights of fathers who are identified and present, but who are hours late in registering their claims because of ignorance of their statutory obligation.”
[The statute] “does not distinguish between fathers in a monogamous relationship who are led to believe mother, father, and baby will form a family unit, and ne’er-do-wells who have nothing to do with the mother after a casual fling that culminates in conception.”
“We also hold that the phone call made to Mr. O’Dea in which Ms. Olea stated ‘I am in Utah’ gave him adequate inquiry notice that a qualifying circumstance existed” and he needed to comply with Utah law.
“Because the Natural Father failed to file his paternity action within the time required by New Mexico law, he did not establish his status as an acknowledged father, and the later paternity order was of no force or effect.”

© 2011 The Salt Lake Tribune

Sunday, December 25, 2011

Day 1 of Salt Lake Tribune Adoption Stories


 
Stopping an adoption: In Utah, unwed fathers rarely win
Does Utah make it intentionally difficult for unmarried biological fathers to protect their paternal rights? If a half-century of legal precedent is any indication, fathers in this state rarely win.
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Leah Hogsten | The Salt Lake Tribune Ramsey Shaud (left) of Crestview, Fla., attended a Utah Supreme Court hearing with his attorney Daniel Drage (right) in September. The court is weighing whether Shaud met requirements of Utah's adoption law in regards to his daughter, born Jan. 15, 2010.
Ramsey Shaud admits the circumstances were not perfect. He wasn’t even sure he loved Shasta B. Tew.
Still, when Shaud learned in 2009 that Tew was pregnant as a result of their casual relationship but didn’t want to be a mother, he stepped up.
Shaud told Tew he wanted to be a dad and would raise the child, with help from his family.
But Tew, then 19, apparently didn’t like that idea and, as she began pursuing adoptive parents for the coming baby, Shaud moved quickly to protect his parental rights. Shaud, who was 22, learned he needed to sign with the Putative Father Registry in Florida, their home state, so he would be notified of any proposed adoption. It turned out to be a simple process: He printed out a form he found online and sent it in, along with the $20 filing fee.
Five months later, Tew’s mother hand-delivered to Shaud a terse three-line note about his ex-girlfriend’s plan to visit Arizona and Utah for the holidays. Shaud feared — rightfully, he says — that the real intent of the trip west was to give birth in a state where he was less likely to be able to assert any claim to the child.
That same day, Shaud had no trouble finding a form for Arizona’s registry online; he printed it, filled it out and mailed it in. But despite hours spent dissecting the Utah Department of Health’s website, which he figured was the logical place to look, Shaud was unable to locate a similar form or information about what he needed to do here.
That’s because Utah, unlike most states with registries aimed at unmarried fathers, doesn’t make a form or directions on how to proceed available online. In fact, the phrase “putative father,” used in state law to describe an unwed biological father, isn’t mentioned anywhere on the websites of the health department or Office of Vital Records and Statistics, the agency charged with maintaining Utah’s registry. Utah law requires that forms be made available through local health departments, but office policy is not to do so, according to Director Janice Houston.
“The state makes the form available at the [Utah] Department of Health, but you have to pick it up in person, which is impossible for a father who lives out of state,” said Joshua Peterman, an attorney who has three active cases involving unmarried fathers.
Shaud, a resident of Crestview, Fla., is one of a string of men who say Utah intentionally makes it difficult to protect their rights when they oppose adoption.In fact, unmarried fathers face a hodgepodge of approaches across the country regarding their rights. A Salt Lake Tribune review found Utah is not the only state where determining how to protect those rights is difficult — a problem some experts say would be solved by creating a national putative-father registry.
‘Draconian consequences’ • After he failed to turn up helpful information on the Utah website, Shaud searched the Internet for “how to prevent adoption in Utah” and discovered a website created by Cody O’Dea of Wyoming, detailing his own and numerous other fathers’ unsuccessful fights to stop or undo adoptions in Utah.
“I thought, ‘Oh geez,’” said Shaud.
His next step was to hire an attorney and engage in what has so far proved to be an unsuccessful effort to undo the adoption of his daughter, who was born in Utah on Jan. 15, 2010, and whom he has never seen. The Utah Supreme Court heard an appeal in Shaud’s case on Sept. 6 and it will likely be months before the court issues a decision.
“I just want my little girl more than anything,” said Shaud, whose experience spurred him to go to college to pursue a law degree. “I never thought it would come down to this.”
If the court’s past rulings are any indication, Shaud’s odds of success are slim.
Utah requires unmarried fathers to strictly follow a process that includes filing a paternity action, registering with the putative father registry, providing a detailed child care plan and paying or attempting to pay pregnancy-related expenses. Most often, fathers lose because they don’t meet Utah deadlines, as happened in Shaud’s case. A lower court judge ruled his consent to his daughter’s adoption was not required because he didn’t meet a filing deadline — a delay Shaud argues was caused by Utah’s four-day workweek and a federal holiday.
But some of the more than 25 higher court rulings in Utah since 1959 have turned on other missteps in the process, including some one justice described as “very minor issues of noncompliance.”
In 2008, Nikolas Thurnwald lost his case because he didn’t get an amended court document notarized or explain who would tend the child while he was at work. That same year, a father identified in court documents only as “C.C.D” declared he would assume full financial responsibility for the child but lost because he did not get a court order of child support or detail what would happen to the child if he were deported.
“There is no question that Utah has the most restrictive laws on asserting an unmarried father’s rights,” said Clark Nielsen, a Salt Lake City attorney who has worked with unmarried fathers in the past. “I can see there are some advantages to that as to what the state perceives as its interests and getting fathers to step up to the plate and so on.”
But, Nielsen added, “It has become so restrictive that people choose to come to the state to cut off the boyfriend or whatever, and that has draconian consequences.”
On Dec. 15, attorneys representing John Wyatt of Woodbridge, Va., filed a petition with the U.S. Supreme Court asking it to review two questions related to his failed bid to stop his daughter’s adoption in Utah. The petition asks the court to consider whether Utah violated a federal parental kidnapping law by ignoring custody rulings issued in Virginia and whether Wyatt’s constitutional rights were violated by denying him an opportunity to object to his daughter’s adoption, particularly given his timely compliance with his own state’s putative father law.
“The birth of the child and the whole plan for adoption was hidden from John — in fact, he was misdirected as to what was going on,” said Stan Phillips, an adoption attorney in Tyson’s Corner, Va., and co-counsel on the writ filed by the Washington, D.C.-based firm Crowell and Moring. “In Utah, birth fathers must come up with every possible argument before you even know what is going on in the case, and that is just unconstitutional.”
Wyatt also has filed a federal lawsuit against Act of Love, the adoption agency; Larry Jenkins, the agency’s attorney; and the adoptive parents, alleging a vast conspiracy exists in Utah to take children from unwed biological fathers. Jenkins, who is listed in court records as an attorney for the agency or adoptive parents in one-third of the cases reviewed by The Salt Lake Tribune for this series, declined to comment because of the lawsuit.
Adoption proponents would like more state laws, as well as any federal law, to mirror Utah’s approach, as Daniel Reese, former development director for the National Council For Adoption, noted in a 2006 speech in Salt Lake City: “While we must respect the rights of biological fathers, we must find the way for a quick and permanent solution for these children . . . Putative father registries like the one in Utah offer the best solution.”
Utah lawmakers first enacted a statute requiring putative fathers to file a notice asserting their parental rights in 1975. The U.S. Supreme Court affirmed the constitutionality of such registries in 1983, upholding a New York law that was similar to Utah’s adoption statute.
A decade later, more state legislatures moved to enact putative father registries after a pair of heart-wrenching, protracted legal battles over infants handed over to adoptive parents at birth and then, years later, returned to their biological parents.
Registries vary • Despite the increase in registries, figuring out what to do in some states to receive notice of an adoption proceeding is like running a marathon obstacle course; even experts have come to different conclusions when trying to decipher state laws. The Salt Lake Tribune reviewed websites, statutes and contacted officials in some states to compile its own breakdown of state laws and assess availability of information.
The Tribune found there are 30 states with registries maintained by a government agency or court; most provide online information and forms. Utah is among the handful of states that do not provide that easy access. In most states with a registry, an unwed father must file only with the appropriate state agency; in a few — such as Utah, Idaho and Missouri — the unmarried father must both register and initiate a court action, which often brings the expense of hiring an attorney.
In states with registries, if an unmarried father fails to act, he loses any right to contest an adoption. Utah law considers an unmarried father to be on notice, from the moment he engages in a sexual relationship with a woman, that a pregnancy and adoption may occur and that it’s his duty alone to protect his rights.
But public awareness of registries and their role in protecting rights is often lacking.
“You can’t sign a registry if you don’t know you are supposed to,” said Adam Pertman, executive director of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute, based in New York. He adds that, by design or happenstance, registries touted as protecting unmarried fathers’ rights “instead appear, in practice, to often cut men out who might have been interested in being let in.”
Shaud’s home state of Florida has one of the most father-friendly approaches in the nation, with its registry listed on the state’s Office of Vital Statistics website and a printable form available in English, Spanish and Creole. Information about the registry must be disseminated via health class curricula, hospitals, adoption agencies, libraries and even at motor vehicle offices.
But proponents of a national registry say the process is far more difficult for unmarried fathers in Utah and many other states — and can be nearly insurmountable for a man who has no knowledge of when or where a mother has given birth.
At present, there is no uniformity to how unmarried fathers are referenced, what these registries are called or who oversees them. The unmarried father, for instance, may be referred to as alleged, presumed, reputed, natural or putative. A registry may be administered by a human resources or a health department, the state’s child welfare agency or, as in Utah, Arizona and Georgia, the office of vital records. In South Carolina, the registry itself is known as the “Responsible Father Registry”; in Iowa, it’s a “Declaration of Paternity Registry.” In Arizona, the form is a “Notice of Claim of Paternity”; New York calls it a “Notice of Intent to Claim Paternity of a Child Born Out of Wedlock.” Oregon maintains a “Notification File” for petitions in “filiation proceedings.”
In states with registries, statutes use similar language to place the burden on an unwed father to act in a specific time frame to protect his rights and receive notice of any adoption proceeding. But deadlines vary widely. In Utah, a father must act prior to the mother giving consent or relinquishing the baby, which can happen 24 hours after giving birth, or by the first business day after the child’s birth, at which point the placement is final. In Michigan it is before birth, while New Mexico sets the deadline at 10 days following birth; Texas requires action no later than 31 days after birth.
A national approach • This disparate approach leads people like Mary Beck, a law professor at the University of Missouri, to advocate for a national registry.
“That is the only way we can protect fathers and adoptions in interstate adoptions,” said Beck, who has drafted statutory language for some states to use in creating registries. “The national registry is intended to address problems arising when conception, birth, placement and adoption filings occur in any combination in more than one state.”
Sen. Mary Landrieu, D-La., has introduced legislation to create a national putative father registry in Congress twice, only to have it stall in committee. She’ll try again this year, according to staff, and plans to draw more attention to the effort.
Mark Demaray, president of the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys, said within the adoption community, “most people would like some certainty, and that is what’s lacking without some uniform registry.”
“If a guy wants to step up and take responsibility, he should have a path,” Demaray said. “There’s not much of a downside to it, in most of our views [though] it might change the law in some states, like Utah, where it might make it more difficult to do an adoption.”
Shaud counts himself among such responsible fathers,saying that had there been a national registry in place when his case began, “all this could have been resolved.”
The Center for Family Policy & Research said a national registry gives even greater privacy and safety to a birth mother “because she does not have to identify the possible father nor inform the father of her pregnancy” — an important consideration in cases of rape, abuse or instances when a father may be married to someone else.
But the registry has opponents, including Erik L. Smith, a paralegal and third-year law student in Ohio who became an expert on the issue after waging his own custody fight.
For one thing, he is dubious because groups like the National Council for Adoption, whom he considers “anti-father,” support it. A national registry would likely have “too many loopholes and be “essentially unenforceable,” Smith said.
“I don’t trust it,” he said. “If a national registry can really work, I’m all for it. But enacting a national registry that does not work will do more harm than good.”
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What Utah law requires of unmarried, or so-called putative, fathers
From within Utah
A birth mother may consent to an adoption or relinquish an infant as soon as 24 hours after giving birth, and the decision is final. An unmarried father residing in Utah who wants to protect his parental rights must do the following either before that happens or, if the birth occurs on a weekend or holiday, within one business day:
File a paternity action in a Utah court stating he is “willing and able” to have full custody and will pay child support, pregnancy-related and childbirth expenses. It also must detail a plan for the child’s care.
File a “notice of commencement of paternity proceeding” with the Office of Vital Statistics.
Prove he paid for a reasonable share of the mother’s pregnancy-related and childbirth expenses, unless he is able to show he did not know about the pregnancy or was not allowed to pay expenses.
From outside Utah
An unmarried father living in another state has 20 days from his discovery that a birth occurred in Utah or the mother executes consent or relinquishment to intervene, provided he proves that:
He did not know and could not have known through “exercise of reasonable diligence” that the child or the child’s mother resided in Utah on a temporary or permanent basis during the pregnancy; the mother intended to give birth in Utah; child was born in Utah; or the mother planned to give consent or relinquish her rights in Utah or under Utah laws.
He complied fully with the putative-father or adoption law in the state where conception occurred or where he last knew the mother resided.
Editor’s note
This is the first of four stories examining adoption in the context of unmarried fathers’ rights under Utah law.

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