Showing posts with label unethical adoption. Show all posts
Showing posts with label unethical adoption. Show all posts

Monday, December 30, 2013

Utah father takes fight for son to federal court




Adoption • Lawsuit alleges conspiracy to defraud, kidnap infant at birth.
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Leah Hogsten | The Salt Lake Tribune Jake Strickland of South Jordan is fighting a legal battle to gain custody of his son, born Dec. 29, 2010.
An unmarried Utah father whose son was placed for adoption at birth without his knowledge or consent has filed a $130 million federal lawsuit against the biological mother, adoption agency, adoptive parents and attorneys alleging they conspired in an “illegal deceit-ridden infant adoption” that deprived him of his son.
In a complaint filed in U.S. District Court, Jake Strickland alleges the defendants acted in a “clandestine” manner and “essentially kidnapped” his son. It alleges the defendants engaged in racketeering, human trafficking and various kinds of fraud as part of a conspiracy to deprive Strickland of his child.
Defendants named in the lawsuit include biological mother Whitney Vivian Pettersson Demke; the adoptive parents (identified only by initials); LDS Family Services; Kirton & McConkie, and attorneys Larry Jenkins and David J. Hardy, both of whom are now associated with Kirton & McConkie. Demke could not be reached for comment.
Hardy declined to comment on the lawsuit on behalf of himself, Jenkins and their law firm. Hardy also declined comment on behalf of LDS Family Services, which handled the adoption and is represented by Kirton & McConkie.
Attorney Wes Hutchins is representing Strickland in the federal lawsuit, as well as an action pending in the Utah Court of Appeals.
The lawsuit, Hutchins said, is “basically an effort to hold everyone accountable for the conspiracy to defraud Jake.”
Strickland and Demke met in 2009 and months later she announced she was pregnant. The baby was due in mid-January 2010.
Their relationship soon turned rocky, though they continued to see each other occasionally. When Strickland told Demke he planned to sign up with Utah’s putative father registry, he says she became furious and threatened to not let him see the baby.
During the course of the pregnancy, Strickland bought groceries and gave cash to cover medical bills and help support Demke and her child from another relationship. He also accompanied her to doctor’s visits and was present when an ultrasound revealed she was carrying a boy.
The two discussed baby names ­— they planned to name their son Jack — shared parenting plans, including Strickland’s desire to raise the boy on his own if necessary. He was eventually led to believe Demke, who had brought up adoption as an option, supported a shared parenting plan.
That winter, the two had a joint baby shower and attended a Christmas party, both hosted by Strickland’s family.
On Dec. 28, 2010, they toured the holiday lights at the LDS Church’s Temple Square in downtown Salt Lake City. The next day, Strickland exchanged text messages with Demke, but nothing seemed amiss.
In fact, she gave birth on Dec. 29 and a day later placed the baby for adoption. Strickland did not learn until Jan. 5 that Demke had already given birth and relinquished her rights to the child. There was another surprise, too: It turned out Demke was still legally married to her husband — not divorced, as she had led Strickland to believe — and under Utah law, as the child’s presumed father, he had had to sign off on the adoption despite knowing the infant was not his offspring.
On Jan. 6, Strickland launched a paternity claim and a legal battle that has met with both wins and losses. A 3rd District judge declined to dismiss Strickland’s paternity claim and asked that it be joined with the adoption proceeding underway in Utah’s 2nd District Court.
While the adoptive parents and birth mother later stipulated to Strickland’s paternity, the case was never consolidated with the adoption proceeding. Strickland learned in November 2011 that his son’s adoption had been completed. A 2nd District Judge denied Strickland’s efforts to challenge the adoption, and last January he filed a notice of appeal with the Utah Court of Appeals.
In the lawsuit, Strickland alleges Demke never intended to co-parent “Baby Jack” with him and “intentionally defrauded” him. The other parties, he alleges, assisted her in carrying out that “fraudulent scheme,” including coercing her then-estranged husband to sign a paternity relinquishment.
“Utah’s pro-adoption and anti-birth father laws, facilitated through fraud immunity, have given rise to a greater number of out-of-state birth mothers forum shopping Utah, and through their own efforts, aided by legal counsel, and in some cases by the prospective adoptive parents, they have been able to successfully place their babies for adoption through misrepresentation and fraud — keeping biological fathers in the dark throughout the process,” the complaint says.
Utah’s adoption statute, which provides immunity to birth mothers who engage in fraudulent acts, “has become an ugly sword slicing through father/child relationships … resulting in fathers being lied to, deceived, and defrauded out of their paternity rights, all in an effort to manufacture the perception of a new, and perceived ‘improved’ family relationship,” according to the complaint.
It alleges the two attorneys, agency and adoptive parents facilitated that sort of deception in the Strickland case; the attorneys also engaged in such practices in other cases involving unwed, biological fathers, the complaint alleges.
brooke@sltrib.com
Twitter: @Brooke4Trib




Happy Birthday Jack!

Jack:

3 years have come and gone. Not a day goes by that we don't think of you and your sweet little soul. We ponder everyday wondering what you look like, what hobbies you like, what you are doing developmentally, and cringe at all of the memories we are missing out on with you. We love you to the moon and back and will continue to fight to be reunited! 

Happy 3rd Birthday! 
12.29.10!

We Love You, Jackson Michael Strickland!



Sunday, January 13, 2013

Next Step.

We have heard back from Judge Hamilton on the constitutionality motion. He has denied Jake's motion. He felt like Jake's constitutional rights were not violated and he did not file timely.

This means we will be moving on with appeals as we originally had planned. It is our belief the judge felt like he was not able to rule on constitutional rights at his court level. We have another 1-3 years of court battles ahead of us.

As you can imagine we are all physically, mentally, emotionally and financially exhausted. Any financial help would be greatly appreciated to help with the ongoing legal battle. You can donate at the paypal account located on the right side of this blog. Jake will not let money get in the way to fight until the end for his son.

We still have hope that the Utah Supreme Court will rule in our favor due to the constitutionality motion. We feel like if we can also get the law changed, there is a hope we can potentially be grandfathered in, but will most likely not happen.

We will be doing some fundraisers in the Spring, and would love any help we can get with donations, or volunteers.

Thank you so much for all of the continued support and prayers. We will never give up on Jackson. He deserves the right to have his father in his life.

Jackson, we will be with you one day, we are hoping it's not when you turn 18, but nonetheless we will be with you! We Love You.

Friday, January 11, 2013

We need your help.

Currently, we are working to change the adoption laws in Utah to protect all parties and need all the help we can get.  Utah Senator Curtis Bramble has stated that he is willing to co-sponsor HB308 which was tabled during the 2012 session.  The problem is that the sponsor, Rep. Christine Watkins was not re-elected. 

HB308 would provide mandatory notice to all potential fathers that an adoption proceeding could be taking place as well as make fraudulent placements criminal for all parties involved.   We are aware that there are other issues which also need to be addressed and changed in Utah’s laws such as open adoption records and adoptions, protection of birth mother rights and options, interstate adoptions, Medicaid fraud, adoptive parent’s rights and most importantly the rights of the adoptee.  We will continue to make changes to the laws one step at a time as necessary until all are protected.  

Some of the issues of concern which held the bill in the 2012 legislative session were;
1. birth mothers would abort if they had to notify the father of the adoption
2. children needed to be placed quickly so that they could bond with the adoptive parents. 

Please help by emailing and/ or calling all Utah State Senators and House Representative requesting that they move to make the necessary changes in Utah adoption laws.  They need to hear from all sides from those who have been affected most by adoption, please give them your story. It is time to be heard.   We must take a stand now to change the laws and stop the current fraudulent actions in adoptions that are destroying one family to create another, which in the end hurts the voiceless children most of all.   Fraudulent adoption hurts adoptive parents and families as well; there is nothing good that comes from a foundation of lies and deception. 

If we stand together we can make a difference. Please forward this request through all social media sites, blogs, and news outlets. It doesn’t matter if you are located in Utah or not, Utah adoption laws affect those well beyond the state line. 

Take 10 minutes out of your day and please email the legislators today.

Senator Curt Bramble  curt@cbramble.com

Rep. Paul Ray pray@le.utah.gov

Rep. Edward Redd eredd@le.utah.gov

Rep. Ronda Menlove rmenlove@le.utah.gov

Rep. Michael Kennedy mkennedy@le.utah.gov

Rep. Brian Greene bgreene@le.utah.gov


Rep. Stewart Barlow sbarlow@le.utah.gov

Rep. Rebecca Chavez-Houck rchouck@le.utah.gov

Rep. Tim Cosgrovetcosgrove@le.utah.gov

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Jackson's 2nd Birthday




Jackson, we want to wish you a happy birthday. We wish we could be with you on your special day! We yearn for the moment we get to be with you and get to have you in our lives. We hope that this next year is filled with special milestones and moments and we hope we get to be apart of them.

Happy Birthday Jackson Michael Strickland! We Love You!

Love,

Your Family!

Monday, December 24, 2012

Under Advisement.

Court went well on Wednesday, the 19th. We weren't quite sure what to expect of the hearing since it was an uncommon procedure our attorney felt for judge to call a hearing on a discrepancy on an order. The judge allowed our attorney Wes Hutchins to argue for over an hour on the Unconstitutionality of the Adoption Act, which blatantly cut Jake of his rights to parent Jackson, due to the fraud and misguided direction of Whitney Pettersson Demke. The Judge told us he would be making a ruling that day because he did not want us to have to wait over the holidays. After he went to his chamber to collect his thoughts, he came out and felt like he was still uncertain about a few things and would taking it under advisement. Judge Hamilton did not give us a timeline of when he would have a ruling, but it is our feeling it will be in the next 20-30 days. 

This gives us hope that the Judge is seriously pondering and questioning about the constitutionally. We feel like since he did not make a ruling that day, he is trying to figure out how he can rule in our favor. Judge Hamilton knows that either way this goes both parties are likely going to appeal his decision and really needs to make sure he gets things right so the Utah Supreme Court doesn't over turn his ruling. Jake is fortunate enough that Wes thought about bringing up his constitutional rights were violated, because many of the other fathers out there didn't bring that up at the district level and so it wasn't an argument that was able to be heard in the Utah Supreme Court.

We have strong hope and faith that Jack will be in our lives very shortly. 

In the meantime,  Jack we wish so badly we could have you with us right now during Christmas. We think about you all day long, and would give anything to see you, and know what your personality is like, if you are healthy. Jack more than anything we wish your adoptive parents would allow Jake in your life now rather than when you are 18. 

Merry Christmas Jackson Strickland! We Love YOU to the moon and back! 

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Isn't it Ironic?

Thinking of our upcoming court date and the endless possibilities that it could mean for Jackson and our family, allows our minds to run wild. I came across a blog today that was sharing the news of an upcoming baby and the name they were choosing for their son, Jack.Over the past few years, the name Jack and Jackson have resurfaced and have made gains in popularity again. When Jake and Whitney found out they were having a boy, they both agreed on the name Jackson, but Jake knew he would be calling him Jack, after his great grandpa Jack. Throughout these past two years, I have never looked into the meaning of Jack, but ran into that meaning tonight.

The Hebrew definition of Jack means God is Gracious, or Gracious Gift of God. WOW! Isn't this true? There is so much a name can say about a person and I feel like this definition was meant to be shared with us at this time. We hope that court on Wednesday, God will be gracious in helping Judge Hamilton do the right thing, and re-unite Jake and Jack, father and son. We know in the bottom of hearts that this will come.

We hope more than anything that Jake will receive a Christmas wish, and get the opportunity to meet his son. Even to begin if it's only for a few hours, he will take it at this point.

Thank you for the prayers, and please continue to pray for Jack, Jake, Judge Hamilton and our family this week as we head to court.

Sincerely,

Aunt Heidi

Thursday, December 6, 2012

Their dirty laundry is aired....

Terry Achane, we feel your pain. We hope that Jared and Kristi Frei, the adoptive couple, will be cooperative in the transistion back with you, her FATHER. Keep fighting and God Bless you for fighting for our freedom!

Shame on Adoption Center of Choice and James Webb for all of their scandolous moves. It makes me sick how they are not only scamming birthfathers, birthmothers, but also the adoptive couples. It's sick and wrong that they are charging these couples $9800 for THEIR marketing and advertising cost, when that money is going directly back into their pocket books. I am sure there are plenty other questionable costs. I hope the state of Utah audits every single adoption agency and closes them down who aren't operating ethically.

Great job Brooke Adams for shedding light on the corruption that is occuring in the Utah Adoption Industry. Keep it up!






Utah adoption saga: New questions as fight continues

Courts • Utah adoptive parents want order to return S. Carolina man’s child stayed.


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Courtesy photo Leah Frei, now 21 months old, has lived with her adoptive parents since birth. Her biological father, who calls her Teleah, is waging a legal battle to get her back.

The Salt Lake Tribune has learned the Utah adoption agency that arranged for a married father’s child to be given up at birth is under scrutiny by state licensing officials and the adoptive parents have acted on their pledge to try to block the toddler’s return to her dad.

Ken Stettler, licensing director for the Utah Department of Health and Human Services, told the Tribune that the Adoption Center of Choice has operated under a corrective action plan since September, when its license was extended but not renewed. The action was taken because of documentation deficiencies in some case files, Stettler said.

The extension expires at the end of December, the deadline for the agency to come into compliance. But allegations in the adoption case have raised new questions and prompted additional review, Stettler said.

Meanwhile, a new legal battle is forming over the child.

Attorney Larry Jenkins, who now represents Jared and Kristi Frei, confirmed Wednesday they have filed a motion asking 4th District Judge Darold J. McDade to stay his order dismissing their adoption petition and requiring the couple to transition Terry Achane’s now 21-month old daughter to him by mid-January. Jenkins also said he is reviewing the case in anticipation of appealing McDade’s decision.

In a statement released to KUTV on Monday, the Freis claim Achane abandoned his wife before their child’s birth and has done nothing to build a relationship with the now 21-month-old girl.

“We are deeply saddened by the court’s decision to give the child back to a father she does not know at all,” said the Freis, who have four biological children and two adopted children, including Leah. “We believe that the court made serious legal errors in his decision and will address these concerns with the Utah Court of Appeals.”

Achane, who calls his daughter “Teleah,” told The Tribune he did not attempt to send gifts or other support once he learned the Freis had his daughter because, given her age and the circumstances, he felt those gestures were unlikely to reach her or make sense to her. Achane, 31, has had two three-hour visits with her during trips to Utah for legal hearings, but otherwise the Freis have not allowed contact.

But Mark Wiser, Achane’s attorney, said the Freis have not responded to repeated attempts by Achane to connect with his daughter since the Nov. 20 ruling.

Achane “has called numerous times only to have the phone go to voice mail, or is busy,” Wiser said. “He still can’t talk with his daughter. He even left his phone number and if the Freis are out on the weekends, they won’t return the call.”

Achane and Tira Bland married in 2009 in Texas and learned in June 2010 she was pregnant and that the baby was due in mid-March of 2011. The couple had marital problems but were still together in January 2011 when Achane accepted a position as a drill sergeant at Fort Jackson in South Carolina. He left in mid-month to set up a home and report for duty, expecting to return to Texas for the baby’s birth.

Less than two weeks later, Bland decided to pursue an adoption; she came to Utah in mid-February and stopped communicating with Achane. Bland, who claimed her husband had abandoned her, gave birth on March 1, 2011.

Achane says he had no idea what had become of Bland or his baby until Bland contacted him in June and informed him she had placed the child for adoption. Achane immediately contacted The Adoption Center of Choice and began asserting his parental rights as the child’s father. He has since divorced Bland.

The Freis were “duped themselves, but eventually they found out what happened and they had to make a choice — do the right thing and return the child to the legal father or keep the child,” said Scott Wiser, Mark’s son and part of Achane’s legal team. “It is a human tragedy. There are victims all around, but two wrongs don’t make a right.”

On its website, the center claims to have facilitated about 1,400 successful adoptions since its founding in 1995. According to its corporate registration filing, it has done business under eight other names in the past, including A Heart of Gold Adoptions, An All American Adoption Agency, A Bridge Adoption Services and A Adoption with Love.

In 2005, the center incorporated as a nonprofit organization under state law, though it does not have federal tax exempt status from the Internal Revenue Service.

James C. Webb, who is currently listed as the only representative — director, officer, president, and registered agent — for the adoption center, did not return a call from The Tribune. His office referred the newspaper to Jenkins, who also represents the adoption agency.

Jenkins confirmed the business was set up as a nonprofit under Utah law.

In its incorporation filing, the center listed its purpose as a child placing agency; providing humanitarian relief and education to underprivileged children worldwide; sheltering children who do not have homes, families or both; assisting adoptive parents; and soliciting contributions.

The center, based in American Fork, has facilitated at least five other controversial adoptions that ended up in rulings by the Utah Supreme Court or Utah Court of Appeals. All of those adoptions involved unmarried fathers, unlike the current case. Each of those fathers — Victor Johnson, Frank Osborne, Buddy Pruitt, Cody O’Dea and Bryn Ayers — were unsuccessful in stopping adoptions of their biological children, mostly based on findings they acted too late under Utah law to protect their parental rights.

The center received harsh criticism in the ruling by McDade, who rebuked the agency for its failure to return Achane’s daughter to him once he realized what had happened to her.

McDade also questioned the agency’s requirement that the Freis pay an “advertising fee” of $9,800 to a marketing company, in addition to other adoption and pregnancy-related expenses it collected.

That business, Blue Sky Choice Marketing, was founded and is operated by Webb, who is the only principal listed for the firm in its corporate registration. According to that document, the marketing company is located in Cedar City and has been in business about two years.

While holding itself out as a nonprofit, the agency also requires clients to pay the advertising fee to Webb’s other company, the judge noted.



brooke@sltrib.com

Twitter: @Brooke4Trib


Agency participated in reality show

Earlier this year, the Adoption Center of Choice was featured on an hour-long special on TLC called “Birth Moms,” a reality show that chronicled experiences of three unwed, pregnant women who were living in homes provided by the center and struggling with their decisions to pursue adoption.

James C. Webb, the agency’s executive director, told The Salt Lake Tribune as part of a report on the show that five of his seven daughters are adopted. Of birth moms, he said: “Here they are doing this amazing thing — giving a gift of life to a child and a family. And it’s not an easy thing. I can’t even imagine how challenging it is.”

Webb said that of the 150 to 200 women who seek the agency’s services each year, about 100 decide to move forward with an adoption. On a blog at its website, a company representative says adoption fees can run from $22,000 to $30,000.


Donation funds for both sides

Jared and Kristi Frei are soliciting contributions for their legal fund on their blog at http://frei-adoption.com/Frei/Leah.html.

Numerous people also have asked how to contribute to Terry Achane’s legal fund. Contributions may be sent to The Law Offices of Wiser and Wiser, 2825 E. Cottonwood Parkway, Ste. 500, Salt Lake City, Utah, 84121.




© 2012 The Salt Lake Tribune


Saturday, October 13, 2012

A letter to Jack

                                                                                                                                                  October 12, 2012
Dear Jack,
I was just thinking about you again today, and wanted to write down some of my thoughts so that one day when you come home you will know how much we have missed and loved you while you were away.
Today is Friday, one of my favorite days of the week because I get to tend your cousin Boston while his mommy and daddy are at work.  This morning Boston and I played cars and trucks in the toy room, we raced over the tracks, then the carpet and finally we went a little crazy and drove them over all the other toys, chairs and tables.  We crashed into each other and laughed more and more with each wreck, it was so much fun.  Then we went for a walk. We have two strollers still hanging in the garage one for you and one for Boston, as I reached for one my heart sank a little more because I wished once again you could be here with us. 
When we came home after enjoying seeing a fire engine, garbage truck and talking to the workers who are building a house down the road,  we walked past the wall of family pictures where the one and only picture of you is hanging.  Boston stopped and pointed to your picture and said Jack.   I love to see this photo every day; it reminds me what a blessing you are to have in our family. 
After lunch and more silly games Boston and I laid down to watch Monsters Inc, and it wasn’t long before he fell asleep which is where he is right now.  We will try to go outside to swing and jump on the tramp if it isn’t raining after he wakes up, if it is raining maybe we will just stay inside and make some cookies. 
Jack, I pray every day for you and your adoptive parents, and hope you are making wonderful memories together.  I hope that you are playing cars and trucks, going on long walks to enjoy the fresh air, and taking in all the beautiful flowers and trees.  I pray that you are seeing the world as it should be seen through a child’s eyes.    You deserve to feel loved, warm, cherished and protected.   I know your adoptive family through your adoptive dad’s side they are very kind and loving people, which does help us to know that you are in a good home.
Jack, we think of you daily. Whenever I see a blonde mommy with a toddler about your age I do a double take, and my heart skips a beat.   There are times I am in the same neighborhood where your grandparents live because your Great Aunt and Great Grandpa live just down the street.  I want to stop and just ask how you are doing, maybe to see a recent picture, to plead to let your daddy see you just once.  It breaks my heart how close you are, but we can’t reach out to you because of the lawyers. I am certain that your daddy’s side has not been shared with 100% honesty with your adoptive parents.  
Boston has now gone home with his mommy, after he woke up from his nap. It turned out to be a cookie making day because of the weather.   Your daddy stopped by for a few minutes to say hi to Boston on his lunch break from work. They played cars, tickled and chased each other for a while until they both were on the floor laughing.  Boston loves his Uncle Jake, and Jake loves his little buddy Boston, but he has a missing part of his heart where you will always fit.  He loves you so much.
Aunt Hailey came home just before Boston left and they were able to sit and read together while his mommy and I listened.  Jack, I am writing to you because this is the only way I have to reach out to you so far.  I know one day you will come home and know the truth why you weren’t with us for a while.  But, until then I don’t want you to miss out on the simple days that you should have had with us. 
I pray that you had a wonderful day today that you played and giggled, watched the rain on the windows, ate warm chocolate chip cookies and felt loved.
I love and miss you little Jack

Love Grandma Jenny