Showing posts with label adoption reform. Show all posts
Showing posts with label adoption reform. Show all posts

Monday, December 30, 2013

Happy Birthday Jack!

Jack:

3 years have come and gone. Not a day goes by that we don't think of you and your sweet little soul. We ponder everyday wondering what you look like, what hobbies you like, what you are doing developmentally, and cringe at all of the memories we are missing out on with you. We love you to the moon and back and will continue to fight to be reunited! 

Happy 3rd Birthday! 
12.29.10!

We Love You, Jackson Michael Strickland!



Friday, January 11, 2013

We need your help.

Currently, we are working to change the adoption laws in Utah to protect all parties and need all the help we can get.  Utah Senator Curtis Bramble has stated that he is willing to co-sponsor HB308 which was tabled during the 2012 session.  The problem is that the sponsor, Rep. Christine Watkins was not re-elected. 

HB308 would provide mandatory notice to all potential fathers that an adoption proceeding could be taking place as well as make fraudulent placements criminal for all parties involved.   We are aware that there are other issues which also need to be addressed and changed in Utah’s laws such as open adoption records and adoptions, protection of birth mother rights and options, interstate adoptions, Medicaid fraud, adoptive parent’s rights and most importantly the rights of the adoptee.  We will continue to make changes to the laws one step at a time as necessary until all are protected.  

Some of the issues of concern which held the bill in the 2012 legislative session were;
1. birth mothers would abort if they had to notify the father of the adoption
2. children needed to be placed quickly so that they could bond with the adoptive parents. 

Please help by emailing and/ or calling all Utah State Senators and House Representative requesting that they move to make the necessary changes in Utah adoption laws.  They need to hear from all sides from those who have been affected most by adoption, please give them your story. It is time to be heard.   We must take a stand now to change the laws and stop the current fraudulent actions in adoptions that are destroying one family to create another, which in the end hurts the voiceless children most of all.   Fraudulent adoption hurts adoptive parents and families as well; there is nothing good that comes from a foundation of lies and deception. 

If we stand together we can make a difference. Please forward this request through all social media sites, blogs, and news outlets. It doesn’t matter if you are located in Utah or not, Utah adoption laws affect those well beyond the state line. 

Take 10 minutes out of your day and please email the legislators today.

Senator Curt Bramble  curt@cbramble.com

Rep. Paul Ray pray@le.utah.gov

Rep. Edward Redd eredd@le.utah.gov

Rep. Ronda Menlove rmenlove@le.utah.gov

Rep. Michael Kennedy mkennedy@le.utah.gov

Rep. Brian Greene bgreene@le.utah.gov


Rep. Stewart Barlow sbarlow@le.utah.gov

Rep. Rebecca Chavez-Houck rchouck@le.utah.gov

Rep. Tim Cosgrovetcosgrove@le.utah.gov

Saturday, December 17, 2011

Major Update:Devastating News

Many things and turn of events have occurred over the past few months in the on-going battle to fight for Jackson. I am going to try my best to bring you up to speed. Unfortunately, we have experienced many delays, set backs, heartbreaks, and loss of faith in the judicial system throughout this process.

If you remember from previous posts, clear back on May 9th, 2011, Judge Christiansen, heard our case, and was in awe with the series of events that had occurred. He recognized that Jake had not filed timely, but could see that this was due to the fact that Whitney Pettersson had blatantly lied, committed fraud, and deceived him so that he could not file the proper paperwork to protect his rights as a father. He ordered DNA testing to be completed, and really felt strongly about enjoining both cases (our case and the potential adoption case), because he knew that the outcome was going to affect both parties. After major delays on opposing counsel and the adoptive couples part to take Jackson a.k.a Benjamin in for genetic testing, the results had come in. Jackson was 100% Jake's son. Our next court hearing was scheduled for August 16th to discuss these findings.

On August 15th, 2011, we received a very surprising and frustrating call from our attorney's office that the judge had a family emergency and court was canceled the following day. We didn't feel like everything was adding up and so we proceeded to go ahead and show up to court anyways. We discovered that the judge DID NOT have a family emergency and was actually in court ready to hear our case. To our dismay though, our attorney as well as opposing counsel did not show up. This caused some great concern for the judge and demanded a telephone conference to be held that day with him, our attorney and opposing counsel from LDS Family Services. In that telephone conference, the real truth came out, that Dave Hardy(opposing counsel) is the one who took it upon himself to actually decide to cancel the hearing because he said he did not have proper notice of the hearing. When in fact, he had confirmed with Jake and Jenny in their depositions, only 2 weeks prior of the court date. This again, was one of their delay tactics, to prolong anything from moving forward with this case, and Jackson getting older and older.

In the telephone conference, the judge was notified of the DNA tests proving Jake to be the father. He then again enjoined the two cases, because opposing counsel had refused to provide our attorney with any information regarding the adoption, such as the case #, what district that case was being heard and who was representing the prospective adoption couple. The judge demanded answers to be told about this crucial information so that things could move forward. It was soon discovered that their attorney was Larry Jenkins and they had a pending case up in 2nd District in Ogden, Utah in front Judge Kay. Judge Christiansen also ordered that this case be resolved with in one district, and the way that would be determined was by who filed their paperwork first, Jake or the prospective adoptive couple.

Well, after a few weeks after this conference call, we found out we had some good news coming our way. We filed FIRST. Jake filed on January 6th, 2011, the very next day he found out about the adoption occurring, and the prospective adoptive couple filed on January 28th, 2011, giving us jurisdiction in having both enjoining cases be heard in front of Judge Christiansen. This was a very big plus for us because he already ruled in our favor once with ordering the DNA test as well as he saw the dishonest behavior of LDS Family Services Legal counsel blatantly NOT show up on purpose. Judge Christiansen ordered an evidentiary hearing to be heard in front of him to have all of the convicting evidence be shared. Judge Christansen knew he had a hard decision coming before him because he knew FRAUD was wrote into the law, and said "If I sanction fraud in my court, I will be denying a biological father thee right to his son, but if I don't I rule against this prospective adoptive couple who has grown to love and bond with this child."

Since mid-August we had not had much activity gone on since that real break through. There had been a conference call with Dave Hardy, Larry Jenkins and our attorney discussing how they would move forward and that was it. Our attorney had been working to get a new court date with Judge Christiansen and was not having much luck with opposing counsel cooperating, again another DELAY tactic.

We had unresolved business from a motion we filed originally back in January and were ordered to go back in front of the commissioner, in September, who originally heard our case and really didn't make any progress, due to her ordering us to go back to Judge Christiansen.

We had become very ancy, that no progress was being made. Calls and emails daily were being made to our attorney to see if any new updates had been made. NOTHING.

Finally, Jenny truly wanted to reach out to the adoptive couple, LDS Family Services, Dave Hardy, and families and truly just let them know what they are doing to Jackson. They aren't doing this in the best interest of the child, they are doing this in the best interest of their pocketbook. Since she is not part of this pending case, she reached out to them all via written letters. They were sent out on November 15th, 2011 and all were confirmed received within 2-3 days. Jake, nor his attorney had any knowledge of this to protect anything with the current case.

Little did we know, Larry Jenkins and the prospective adoptive couple had been collaborating and in the works with Dave Hardy on how they could try to get this thing maneuvered and finalized.

On Thanksgiving day, we received the most devastating and heartbreaking news yet throughout this whole ordeal. Jenny's father, who through the grapevine, has some connections with the prospective adoptive couple, heard that the adoption had been FINALIZED. What? How is this possible you ask? We were wondering the same thing. We could not believe this news could be true. There was NO possible way that this could happen right? We had been enjoined with the adoption case 2 different times. Since it was a holiday, we had to wait 4 grueling days until Monday, when our attorneys office was open for business. We called and had to DELIVER the devastating news to OUR own attorney. He was astonished just as we were. He immediately began calling to Larry Jenkins, Dave Hardy, and LDS Family Services, and AGAIN received NO information. Our attorney, wrote a letter to Larry Jenkins, to our dismay replied with a response we could not believe.

He informed us, that he checked with the court in 2nd District, and since Jake was not part of this adoption did not need proper notification of this adoption proceeding to move forward and that his client's were able to FINALIZE the adoption. WHAT? WHAT? WHAT? He DISOBEYED, Judge Christiansen's orders TWICE to enjoin the adoption case and our case. Judge Christiansen enjoined the cases for this EXACT reason, because he did not want someone to be able to make a final decision without both parties being heard. Judge Christiansen even filed a motion to stay on the case back in October, to make sure that their were no movements in this case until they came back in front of him. He also informed us that his clients felt threatened and would take protective action from the court if the harassment didn't stop. Which is ridiculous they would even say such a thing. There was nothing threatening wrote in the letters, it was the absolute truth, and Jenny's opinion, which she clearly states over and over she is not threatening anyone.

We will be posting the letters that were written by Grandma Graham over the next few days.

We are still 100% fighting this, and are in the process to intervene with the adoption. We are currently still awaiting to get a court date to go back before Judge Christansen, to share with him the news, that opposing counsel does not care what he rules or his orders, because he is going to go behind his back, LIE, and FRAUDULENTLY, get this adoption to go through.

Larry Jenkins was able to use FRAUD to allow his client to make a STOLEN baby theirs. They have a child who they want to bless, and get sealed in the LDS temple, and they are doing this KNOWING that they were dishonest, to get this to ultimately go through. We really aren't quite sure what they are thinking. Do they really not realize that Jackson will be 18 and we will tell him EVERYTHING? He will know the absolute truth and know that his so called parents took him against his will? They will have their world crashing down sooner than later. Time is flying by fast. Jackson is almost 1 years old. We only have to wait 17 more years to see our sweet boy.

If you feel as outraged about this as we do and did, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, voice your opinions to the adoptive couple, Larry Jenkins, LDS Family Services, Utah General Attorney Mark Shurtleff, and all of the Legislators in UTAH. This truly has to end. We can not have corrupt people creating the laws that deal with children, representing the laws that deal with children, and breaking the laws that deal with children.

Tune in tomorrow for Day 1 of the letter sequence. Also, a 4 page spread will be running in the Salt Lake Tribune, about the Utah adoption practices, ethics, and our story, beginning on Christmas Day.

Jackson, we have a had a few rough weeks with the holidays around and your birthday coming around the corner. Don't worry we have not forgotten about you and have not given up. We love you so much and will continue to fight until you are home with us and justice is serviced.

-Love,
Aunt Heidi

Friday, December 16, 2011

Strength

"A river cuts through a rock, not because of its power but its persistence."
                                                                 Jim Watkins

Friday, November 11, 2011

11.11.11

As the hype of 11.11.11 was going around today, I decided to google what the significance was of 11.11. I was surprised to find out that it could be more relate able than I thought originally. Growing up, I have had the superstition to make a wish whenever the clock struck 11:11. I don't know where, why or how this behavior became about, but it has been instilled upon me for a few years. Today, my wish was of utmost importance; BRING BABY JACK HOME!!

After searching the web for the meaning or significance, I found that many websites claimed that this was a way of angels communicating. This really struck me hard. Now, I don't know if this has any true meaning behind it or not, but right now we really need an angel watching out for us, Jackson, and Jake. This has been a long and exhausting journey, and we really hope the end is in sight. We really hope that we have some unanswered prayers and SOON. We need to have our baby home for the holidays.

Everyday, Jackson gets older and older, and develops so many characteristics, talents, and quirks, and we have been RIPPED of our right to be able to see him develop. My son, has been deprived of meeting his cousin, who is only 4 months younger than he is. We have not gotten to hold, see, or kiss on our sweet little baby. We don't even know if he is healthy or not....

We believe that everything happens for a reason. We are not sure of the reason, that this catastrophic ordeal had to happen to us or to the adoptive couple, but hopefully one day SOON, all of our questions can be answered.

We not only have a journey and purpose now to get Jackson home, but we now have a desire and lifelong goal to make sure that this does not happen to ANYONE else. We have to take a stand and not let unhealthy laws, and principals dictate the outcome of children. Please help us in this uphill journey!!!! VOICE your opinion to the UTAH STATE LEGISLATORS.

To the adoptive couple, please reach out to JAKE. He needs to meet his son. A picture is worth a 1000 words!

Jack's Aunt
Heidi

Thursday, October 20, 2011

To the adoptive couple

To the adoptive couple:

I just wanted to take a minute to express my deep heartfelt apologies for all that you have had to go through  these past ten months. I am sure your life has been far from easy. It's unbelievable how one selfish decision, by Whitney Pettersson, could have impacted and ruined dozens of lives forever. Both our lives will be forever changed no matter the outcome of this tragic ordeal.

It's crazy how small of a world we live in. After all, we only live 45 minutes away from each other. Soon after we found out who you were, we immediately had a stronger connection than just Jack. Did you know that my mother babysat you when you were a baby, adoptive father? Look really close at the pictures in the background. Also, did you know we have reached out to the paternal grandparents and shared with them the true situation and information and they thought that they would be able to work something out? Not the case.  Well, we have! We have tried to make contact with you to share with you MY side of the story, which Jack will hear someday.

Unfortunately, this "family" you have, is not based on honesty, and will one day unravel. This baby you have named "Ben" will never truly be your son. I am his biological father who loves him and ALWAYS has loved him and will fight for him until he is my arms.

This day and age, technology is everywhere. We will use this to our advantage if we have to find him one day. We have books and books of information, WE WILL share with Jackson! He will know the absolute truth.

This battle has been long and exhausting and it would be in everyone's best interest to stop this heartbreak now, before the wounds get deeper. Give Jack back and get the baby that you always wanted. One that truly was consented to adoption to be in a better home, not one that was UNRIGHTFULLY STOLEN from his father that wanted him.

To the adoptive couple, please do what is ethically and morally right. You know deep down in your heart, and the faith that you believe in, that Jackson is not meant to be with you. I understand the pain that you will be in, but it will only be so much worse, when HE can make his decisions. When he becomes an adult, and his decision is to have nothing to do with the people who betrayed him the most, his adoptive parents.

You know how to get a hold of us! Please do this so we can all move forward with our lives.

It's up to you to get Jackson home where he belongs.
PLEASE DON'T DENY JACKSON, HIS FATHER AND FAMILY.

I am dying to meet my son, and see the gorgeous little boy I have created.

Sincerely,

Jake Strickland, Jack's Grandparents, Aunt's, Uncles, SISTER, Cousins, and many many extended family and friends