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Monday, December 30, 2013

Unwed father alleges racketeering in adoption lawsuit



Unwed father alleges racketeering in adoption lawsuit
SALT LAKE CITY — A West Jordan attorney and his Arizona-based client are suing for $130 million over an adoption that they say was unlawful, citing a federal act typically used to prosecute gang members and others involved in organized crime.
In the complaint filed Friday, attorney Wesley Hutchins and his client, Jake Strickland, accuse a Utah woman who had Strickland's child, LDS Family Services, an LDS Family Services employee, the child's adoptive parents and attorneys from the law firm Kirton McKonkie, who aided in the adoption, of "racketeering" and "kidnapping." They also allege that the parties are guilty of wire fraud, human trafficking and selling a child.
Hutchins admits the allegations are attention-grabbing and the suit is intended, in part, to bring attention to the rights of birth fathers. But a lawmaker familiar with the case says the lawsuit is unnecessary.
The lawsuit hinges on the story of Strickland, who claims the woman with whom he fathered a child lied to him about her plans for the child until the day before the boy was born. But Hutchins said he pointed to other cases of alleged fraud in the lawsuit as well to demonstrate that the birth mother's fraud was part of what he claims is a larger pattern found among adoption agencies and attorneys in the state.
"It's really an issue of accountability," Hutchins said. "With these fraudulent adoption schemes you find that they are fraudulent, there are co-conspirators involved — most notably adoption attorneys, adoption agencies and adoptive mothers that are engaged in an enterprise," he said. "We've cited those other cases as a necessary element to RICO (Racketeering Influenced and Corrupt Organizations Act) to show a pattern of unlawful conduct."
Strickland fathered a child with a woman who was married but estranged from her husband. The woman said she was considering an adoption, but Strickland stated numerous times that he wanted the child and would care for it by himself if necessary, the lawsuit states.
The baby was born, unknown to Strickland, on Dec. 29, 2010. Just more than 24 hours later, the birth mother signed documents relinquishing her parental rights.
Strickland had been told by the birth mother that the baby would be delivered by C-section on Jan. 12, 2010. But on Jan. 5, 2010, the birth mother told Strickland in a cellphone conversation that she had placed the baby with an adoptive couple, according to the lawsuit.
Strickland initiated a paternity claim the following day. He had not, however, registered with Utah's putative father registry during the pregnancy.
Strickland later learned that the woman was not legally divorced from her husband, according to press reports. Under the state Judicial Code, a married woman's husband is presumed to be the father of her child.
According to the lawsuit, a social worker pressured the woman's husband to relinquish his parental rights and allow the adoption to proceed. Hutchins said she even threatened the man after he mentioned Strickland, telling him that if he didn't keep quiet he would be stuck with child support payments.
He also alleges that attorneys David Hardy and Larry Jenkins failed to inform the adoption court about a stipulation in a paternity case recognizing Strickland as the biological father and left the man in the dark about proceedings as they "rushed" the adoption. He said he and Strickland are seeking $30 million for what Strickland lost in being able to raise and enjoy his child.
Under the Utah Adoption Act, you can commit fraud, and it is not a basis to overturn an otherwise illegal adoption, you can sue for damages. … So you can't get your child back if there's a fraudulent adoption, but you can get money.
–Wesley Hutchins, attorney
The $100 million is "an amount specifically designed to serve as a deterrent to this kind of conduct," Hutchins said. "Under the Utah Adoption Act, you can commit fraud, and it is not a basis to overturn an otherwise illegal adoption, you can sue for damages. … So you can't get your child back if there's a fraudulent adoption, but you can get money."
The attorneys in the suit with Kirton McKonkie declined to comment, as did LDS Family Services. But Sen. Todd Weiler, R-Woods Cross, said Strickland had an attorney who told him to follow Utah law and register as the father.
Weiler said he knows of the Strickland family and is sympathetic. He has heard Strickland's mother testify at the Utah Legislature and has met with her.
"It's a tragic story, and she feels that she lost her grandchild and my heart goes out to her, but the protections there in the law were there and they weren't followed," Weiler said, emphasizing the ease of registering for paternity in the state.
"His rights would have been protected if he would have just followed the advice of his own attorney," Weiler said. "The lawsuit takes a shotgun approach against a lot of good people and a lot of good entities that are doing lot of good. … It appears to me that they're trying to blame everyone except for the responsible party."
He said he is aware of pending lawsuits alleging injustices for unwed fathers in Utah but said they don't justify a serious change in the law. He noted that he is an attorney who has personally handled more than 100 adoptions.
"I'm not convinced that a dramatic change needs to take place, because when we make a change, it affects tens of thousands of adoptions, and what we're looking at in this lawsuit and a few other high-profile lawsuits are one or two bad examples out of 10,000," he said. "I don't think it's good policy for the state to look at one or two exceptions and say, 'Let's change the laws for everyone.'"

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Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Finally a court date

We finally have a court date! August 1st at 1:30 PM we will be meeting in Farmington 2nd District Court in front of Judge Hamilton. This court hearing will determine if we will be granted permission to intervene in the adoption proceeding. We pray that this Judge will do what is right and grant Jake a chance to be heard.

Although court is 6 weeks away we are excited to finally have a court date. We have been anxiously awaiting for this.

Please keep Jake and Jack in your prayers and pray that the prospective adoptive couple will have the strength and courage to do what it is right in their hearts and choose to give Jackson back to his loving father.

Jackson Michael Strickland, you are so loved, cared about and thought about every single day. Although, you are getting older our love for you has only gotten stronger. We wish we knew you were healthy and happy. We have been denied an opportunity to hear how you are growing, developing and enjoying life. We hope one day soon we will get to witness your personality, and get to know your quirks and characteristics. WE LOVE YOU Jackson and will never stop fighting.

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Missing you...

Jack:

My sweet boy, I have been thinking a lot about you lately. I have definitely not forgotten about you. Easter was on Sunday and as with every holiday my heart ached as I long for you. A huge chunk of my heart is missing and it's waiting for you to fill that void. Jack, I think about you all day everyday and just hope you are well taken care of. I have asked to see you from a far, a picture, a health update anything to settle my heavy heart, and my request was denied. Jack, I know one day I will get to share my love with you. As time goes on, my love only gets stronger for you, not weaker. I hope we get a court date within the next week to intervene in the adoption. I hope that this will all come to an end real soon. I just want you here in my arms, where you are suppose to be.

Jackson, I love you with all my heart. I will never stop fighting.

XoXo,

Daddy Jake

Monday, April 2, 2012

Powerful!

"If you shut up truth and bury it underground, it will but grow, and gather to itself such explosive power that the day it bursts through it will blow up everything in its way."
Emile Zola
French Novelist, Critic, Activist
1840-1902

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Come show your support

Tomorrow at 9 AM, please find yourself at the Matheson Courthouse Rm N42 in Salt Lake, Utah, in support of Robert Manzanares. He has a court hearing to dismiss his case in Utah and allow it to move to the Colorado court system, where he has properly been fighting for his rights to parent his biological daughter. Rob's case has seen a first in the Utah Supreme Court where they have ruled against a lower Utah district court ruling and ruled in favor of the father. His case is HUGE for Baby Jack. There is a very, very great chance he will be getting custody of his precious daughter that he never wanted to be placed for adoption.

If you have a free moment, we would love the support.

Thank you!

Sunday, February 26, 2012

Still Fighting

Dear Jackson:

It's been almost 14 long and unbearable months since you have been gone. We think about you every single day. We wish we knew what you looked like, how you were developing, what milestones you have hit and be able to squeeze you with love whenever our hearts desire. Our hearts ache that you can not be here with us and are not able to play with your cousin Boston. Every day when we look at him, we just wonder if you look like him with big baby blue eyes, a head full of dark brown hair and chubby cheeks. Jackson, everyday is a struggle not having you in our home, and we are longing for the day that we get to see your sweet face.

Jackson, we are fighting so hard to bring you back home! We have a great new attorney Wes Hutchins, who has done so much for our case in the past two weeks. We just filed a motion to intervene in the adoption that had been finalized fraudulently behind the judge's orders up in 2nd District. This gives us some hope, that we will get to meet you before you are 18. Wes brought up many valid arguments and points such as  your daddy's constitutional rights have been cut off to parent, fraud, fraud and more fraud, and the parental kidnapping act. There has been a small victory for another father fighting for his child who was living in Colorado at the time. Robert Manzanare's case was overturned in the Utah Supreme Court. If we have to go that far we have a VERY VERY great chance at having our case overturned.

Jackson, I hope you realize what a special special boy you are, and how many people truly love you. You have had such an impact on thousands of people. You are helping to get the laws changed in the state of Utah as well as helping other father's out there be able to raise their children. Although, your family is sacrificing right now, we know eventually who you will be with.

We love you so much Jackson and we hope we have a court date soon!

Love,
Your family

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Adoption: Trauma that lasts a lifetime

Running head: ADOPTION PSYCHOLOGY

Adoption: Trauma that Last a Life Time

Vicki M. Rummig
They just cannot understand. The perfect child Mr. & Mrs. Smith adopted 15 years ago is now skipping school, talking back, experimenting with drugs, and is involved in a sexual relationship with her 20-year-old drug addicted boyfriend. Until a year ago she always had good grades and enjoyed spending time with her parents; she was the ideal child. They have sought treatment from a family therapist. Nevertheless, they just cannot seem to get through to her. There have been no new stressors in the household. What could be the problem?


For many years adoption has been viewed as a perfect arrangement for all involved. What has not been taken into account are the emotional effects adoption has on all members involved, most specifically, for the purpose of this paper, the adoptee. These effects, or issues, can be managed as long as they are recognized and acknowledged. Adoptees’ psychological issues need to be addressed by mental health professionals in order to recognize and effectively treat symptoms of low self-esteem, lack of trust, and dissociation.

The adoptees’ trauma begins the moment she is separated from her birth mother. Some psychologists believe that an infant is not able to differentiate her mother until at least two months of age. At the same time they believe that the infant does not know she is her own entity (Kaplan, 1978). What do mental health professionals believe the infant thinks for these first two months? They will suggest that she is in some type of limbo, that she does not have the capacity to think or know until two months of age. Yet, she somehow knows to cry when she is uncomfortable and how to ingest her food. Psychologists will call this instinct, but we should also look at the possibility of the newborn instinctively knowing who her mother is. After all, they were connected for 40 weeks.

Since an infant does not see herself as a separate entity, we must believe that she sees herself as part of the person she was physically attached and bonded to for 40 weeks (Verrier, 1993, chap. 2). When separated from the one thing to which she has connected, the infant will feel she has lost part of herself.

Many doctors and psychologists now understand that bonding doesn’t begin at birth, but is a continuum of physiological, psychological, and spiritual events which begin in utero and continue throughout the postnatal bonding period. When this natural evolution is interrupted by a postnatal separation from the biological mother, the resultant experience of abandonment and loss is indelibly imprinted upon the unconscious minds of these children, causing that which I call the “primal wound.” (Verrier, 1993, p. 1)

When the adoptee is separated from her birth mother, she undergoes extensive trauma. She will not remember this trauma, but it will stay in her subconscious as she lived it (Verrier, 1993). An event from a person’s infancy can and will stay with them through life. An example of the subconscious effect of an early experience would be Marc. Marc was in an orphanage for the first year of his life. Because of the lack of human touch, he would rock himself in his crib. Marc is now 42 years old and still rocks himself whenever he is watching television, listening to music, or sitting on a park bench. He does not remember rocking himself as an infant, but this practice has stayed with him through his subconscious his entire life.

The adoptee will always carry this issue of abandonment with her wherever she goes. It is no different from when a husband leaves a wife. She may remarry to a wonderful man, but will always wonder if her new husband is also going to leave her. She must work through the abandonment issue to regain trust. The abandonment issue has to be acknowledged, before it can be resolved.

Even if the “primal wound” as described above was not a factor in the adoptees’ emotional well being, the knowledge of abandonment will always be there. She may have been told she was “chosen” by the adoptive parents but it will not be long until she figures out she was abandoned by the first set of parents. Julie P. responded to a question on the Adoptees Internet Mailing List (an Internet support group that consists of approximately 1000 members) about the feeling of being adopted, “No, I am not depressed, miserable, angry, or negative...but I have always felt second best. Sure I was told that I was the (chosen) one, but first I was rejected.” Regardless of the circumstances, it will always feel like abandonment to her.

The adoptee is given very little information about her relinquishment. She is expected to leave the past behind and concentrate of her present and future. Out of respect for the adoptive parents, she will often not ask questions or talk about her adoption if it is an uncomfortable subject in her home. She will wonder about her relinquishment and her birth mother. To attempt to fill in the gaps she will create fantasies of acceptable scenarios of the circumstances of her conception, birth and relinquishment, that she can emotionally handle.

As a small child, she will not understand how a mother could give her up, or abandon her. Adoptees may feel they must have been a bad baby or that the birth mother was an uncaring person. Other thoughts will occur, such as she was stolen from the birth mother, either by public authorities or her adoptive parents. Often children will fluctuate in their thoughts and fantasies depending on their perception of the adoptive parents at any given time. (Lifton, 1988 &1994; Verrier, 1993; Brodzinsky, Schechter & Henig, 1992; Reitz & Watson, 1992; Adopting Resources, 1995) She will generally outgrow believing her fantasies and begin to see them as just that, but a part of her will always wonder.

The “chosen” child story also has negative affects on a child for other reasons. The child may feel that she has to be perfect to live up to her “chosen” status. Her role model adoptees include Superman and Jesus. This is a hard image for the average child to live up to. She may either become the compliant “perfect” child or she may act out and misbehave to test the commitment of the adoptive parents. Either way, often times she is not being herself, but rather acting a part. This acting can be very emotionally draining and confusing, and may last until the early adult years and beyond. When the adoptee can not live up to her perfect “chosen” status, it will contribute to the feeling of low self-esteem. This will be further exacerbated if the adoptive parents are not aware of the issue and their actions reinforce the adoptees beliefs, i.e., sending her away for residential treatment or openly wishing her to be more like themselves.

The adoptee is also aware of many ghosts that follow her through life. These ghosts include the person she would have been had she not been adopted, the ghost of the birth mother and birth father, and the ghost of the adoptive family’s child that would have been (Lifton, 1994, chap. 6). She may find herself trying to connect to her ghosts through her actions. Either being her image of her birth family, living her life according to her fantasy birth family, or acting as her vision of the adoptive parent’s natural child.

When the adolescent adoptee acts out it may be her way of trying to connect with the image she has of her birth mother or may be that she does not feel worthy of the adoptive parents love. Adolescence is a confusing time for any child, but the adoptee has many more identity issues to deal with. She may also be testing the commitment of the adoptive parents, seeing if they will send her away for being bad.

A great many of these young people are in serious trouble with the law and are drug addicted. The girls show an added history of nymphomania and out-of- wedlock pregnancy, almost as if they were acting out the role of the “whore” mother. In fact, both sexes are experimenting with a series of identities that seem to be related to their fantasies about the biological parents. (Lifton, 1988, p. 45)

As the adoptee begins to become aware of her adoptee status she will notice the differences she has from her peers and other family members. I noticed in my family that I did not have the nose or ears of any of my adoptive family. This is normal for an adoptee and can make her feel left out or misplaced in her family. A particularly tough time for the adoptee is when first learning about genetics in school. The first lesson in heredity and genetics usually is regarding eye color. If the adoptees’ own eyes do not fall into the proper genetic pattern she is left with a distinct feeling of not belonging. There are many instances in growing up when she is again faced with the knowledge that she is different; when asked about family history by a doctor, when asked if she has a sister because the inquirer knows someone who looks just like her, when asked about ethnic background, in regular day to day conversations.

Physical differences are not the only ones that are noticed. A difference in personality or talents may further misplace the adoptee from her family. In talking with other adoptees, I have described this feeling as “feeling like my adoptive family is in a big circle but I am on the outside looking in.”

With the adoptee not having a role model who resembles her physically or psychologically, it is more difficult to define where her life shall lead. She may come from a biologically artistic family, but adopted into a scientific family. She may not only feel the need to follow in her adoptive family’s footsteps, attending similar colleges, choosing similar careers, but she did not have the artistic role model to show her that way of life. This further complicates the identity formation of the adoptee. “One’s identity begins with the genes and family history...” (Reitz & Watson, 1992, p. 134)

Adoptees also lack the ability to see their physical characteristics as they will present themselves in the future. A natural born daughter would be able to tell how big she is going to be, if she will have a tendency to be overweight, or if she is going to go grey early in life, but the adoptee is denied this genetic role model and will not know these things until she reaches that stage in life herself. This adds to the curiosity of wanting to know their genetic background.

Rachel says that families are a hall of mirrors, “Everyone but adoptees can look in and see themselves reflected. I didn’t know what it was like to be me. I felt like someone who looks into a mirror and sees no reflection. I felt lonely, not connected to anything, floating, like a ghost.” (Lifton, 1994, p. 68)

The adoptee will feel even more dissociated when conversations regarding other family members or peers births are brought up. She is missing the story of her birth parents meeting, her conception, her birth, and in some instances, some time after her birth. On the Adoptees Internet Mailing List one member described this feeling as the “floating cosmic blip.” It is often commented that the adoptee feels hatched not born or that they are some type of space alien. Non-adoptees take their own life story for granted, but the adoptee is acutely aware that theirs is missing. So now, not only does the adoptee feel dissociated from her adoptive family, but also from her peers, for she is different.

Adoptees are faced with a feeling of loss and grief that they are not allowed, by society, to actively mourn. “With adoption, the child experiences a loss (like divorce or death) of an unknown person, and doesn’t know why.” (Adopting Resources, 1995) She is aware that family members are lost to her, but is expected to not mourn the loss of this family member she has never known. She will often be chastised when asking questions of her birth family from her adoptive family.

Not all of these issues affect adoptees to the same extent. Some may spend a lifetime dwelling on it, others may not even appear to notice. This would be true of any group of people that lived through trauma, such as Vietnam War Veterans. It should be noted that adoptees are over represented in residential treatment centers.

The number of Adoptees in the adolescent and young-adult clinics and residential treatment centers is strikingly high. Doctors from the Yale Psychiatric Institute and other hospitals that take very sick adolescents have told me they are discovering that from one-quarter to one-third of the patients are adopted. (Lifton, 1988, p.45)

In recent years there have been more works written on the subject. In 1978 Sorosky, Baran, and Pannor wrote the Adoption Triangle. This was one of the first written books that spoke specifically of the psychological issues of adoption. In one reference book written for psychologist by Reitz and Watson (1992) it was noted:

Despite the proliferation in recent decades of the literature on both family therapy and adoption, there has been little focus on the treatment of families involved in adoption. We offer our approach both as one sample of the current state of the practice art and as a way to generate hypotheses. Little, definitive, formal research findings are available, we have cited them; we believe, however, that findings from practice are valid field research. The clinician’s skills in observing recurrent themes and patterns resemble those of the formal researcher who looks for patterns in statistical data. Both clinicians and researchers must then interpret their findings. (preface)

In the early 1960s Dr. Marshall Schechter, child psychiatrist, was challenged by social workers when he first made the observation that there were a disproportionate number of adoptees in his clinic ( as cited in Lifton, 1988, p. 44). He later teamed up with Brodzinsky to research the psychology of adoption and to write various books (1990, 1992) on the subject.

There are many books written by members of the triad (refers to the three sides in adoption; adoptive parents, birth parents, and adoptees) that are geared toward their triad peers. (Lifton, 1988 and 1994; Verrier, 1993). These are an excellent resource for triad members to begin to explore the issues of adoption. Although they are not written with psychologists in mind, they would be a good first step for mental health professionals to begin to also understand adoption.

In researching basic child psychology books, if adoption is mentioned, it is in the following context: “It should be obvious that neither I or anybody else knows enough about the psychology of adoption to offer any firm advice.” (Church, 1973)

Although there are both more studies and writings on the subject, mental health professionals remain ignorant of adoptees’ issues. Thomas Danner, PhD, a local family counselor, discussed some of his educational experiences and views on adoptees issues (personal communication, May 17, 1996). He stated he had not given the adoptees issues any prior thought. When presented with some of the repercussions of adoption, he was in agreement that these things could play into the emotional well being of the adoptee. He was open in disclosing that he had little knowledge of adoption issues and was willing to accept the ideas this paper has to present.

Betty Jean Lifton, PhD, Adoption Counselor/Author and adoptee, also commented on the subject (personal communication, May 20, 1996). When asked what lead to her studying adoption issues. Her reply was: ‘Are you an adoptee...then you know.’ This illustrates how most of the research done on adoption issues has been raised by someone who has been touched by adoption. It is easy to understand how someone who has not lived it, would not give the subject much thought. Mental health professionals need to be made to give the subject some thought or they will be doing a disservice to their adopted patients.

The first step to communicating the psychological effects of adoption to mental health professionals is to educate the public in general. There have been more recent books, movies, and such on adoption but they fail to acknowledge the special issues. Through accurate media representation, the general population can receive information needed to better understand the adopted person. In turn, the mental health professionals can begin to study the subject and explore alternate treatments for their adopted patients.

College and university professors need to begin teaching the special issues and treatments unique to adoption, just has they teach unique approaches to dealing with sexual abuse, divorce of parents, Attention Deficit Disorder, and the many other problems youth are faced with today. The subject must also be included in the college text books or the students must utilize the reference books written on adoption (Reitz & Watson, 1992; Brodzinsky & Schechter, 1990).

Adoptive parents must also be aware of these special issues so they can find a counselor who is trained to deal with them. Too often, counselors of adopted children are not aware that special issues exist and they attempt to treat the least disturbing problem and thus they fail to get to the core issue of adoption. Parents who called me have taken their child--usually an adolescent adopted at birth--from therapist to therapist, without ever having come upon one who is knowledgeable about adoption. The child now has become what Kirschner calls a “secondhand patient.” Therapists who do not see adoption as a core issue cannot reach the child. The Adoptee remains isolated and continues to act out... (Lifton, 1988, p. 273)

After realizing all the different issues adoption holds for their daughter, Mr. and Mrs. Smith received a referral for an adoption specialist in their area. They are now attending family counseling and making some progress toward their daughter’s recovery through open communication and understanding of the trauma she still experiences.



Works Referenced

  • Adopting Resources (1995) Common clinical issures [sic] among adoptees. [Online]. Available: World Wide Web, http://www.adopting.org/commmonis.html.

  • Brodzinsky, D. M., & Schechter, M. D. (1990). The Psychology of Adoption NY:Oxford University Press, Inc.

  • Brodzinsky, D. M., Schechter, M. D., & Henig, R. M. (1992) Being adopted: The lifelong search for self. NY:Doubleday.

  • Church, J. (1973) Understanding your child from birth to three. NY: Random House.

  • Kaplan, L. J., (1978) Oneness and separateness: From infant to individual. NY: Simon & Schuster.

  • Lifton, B. J., (1988). Lost and Found: The adoption experience. (2nd ed.). NY: Harper and Row Publishers, Inc.

  • Lifton, B. J., (1994) Journey of the adopted self: A quest for wholeness. NY: Basic Books/HarpersCollins Publishers, Inc.

  • Reitz, M. & Watson, K., (1992) Adoption and the family system. NY: Guildford Publications.

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  • Wednesday, February 8, 2012

    We need your help!

    Thank you so much for all of your support with getting our sweet little baby Jackson Michael Strickland back. Thank you for signing the petition and spreading the word on many blogs, facebook pages, twitter, etc. We have had many people ask how they can help and this is how you can. You can help change the Utah adoption laws.  House Bill 308 represented by Christine Watkins is revising the current adoption laws for unwed father's. There is a hearing tomorrow, Feb. 9th 2012, at the Utah State Capitol builidng at 4:00 PM. We need people to flood the court room in support of this bill passing. Although, this bill will not help with getting our sweet little Jack back, it will help future father's and families not have to deal with the heartache we have endure the past year. The hearing will be located in the Northwest building, the house building, in room 25W.

    We can not thank you enough for how much this support will mean to us and all of the unwed father's out there.

    Thank you and God Bless!

    The Strickland Family

    Monday, February 6, 2012

    Dueling Adoption Bills

    The attempt at changing the adoption laws is great, but they really aren't addressing the real issue here. FRAUD is allowed in a law with children. There will be a hearing today at Utah State Capitol builidng at 2:00 PM. Be there if you can.




    Dueling bills address giving unwed fathers notice of adoption
    Legislation • Pair take different approaches to notify men of Utah adoption proceedings.
    Two lawmakers want to address the rights unwed biological fathers have in an adoption proceeding, but with notably different approaches.
    SB55, sponsored by Sen. Todd Weiler, R-Woods Cross, says a birth mother, adoption agency or attorneys involved may send a “prebirth notice” to any presumed father informing him of a potential adoption proceeding in Utah. HB308, sponsored by Rep. Christine Watkins, D-Price, would require such notices, but only to out-of-state fathers.
    Each bill gives the father 30 days to respond to the notice by acting to protect his rights in Utah; failure to respond in that time period would extinguish any right to object to the adoption. Watkins’ bill would eliminate the need for a father to take court action before he can file with the state’s Putative Father Registry, while Weiler’s bill would keep in place the current requirement that an unwed father file a paternity action in court before he can file with the registry. He must do both to be entitled to notice under Utah’s current adoption law.
    The House Health and Human Services Committee will consider HB308 Monday at 2 p.m.
    Weiler said recent Utah Supreme Court decisions, including a Jan. 27 ruling in favor of a Colorado father’s right to intervene in an adoption, have “highlighted” the lack of a notice provision in Utah’s statute.
    “This bill will address that public outcry we’ve been hearing,” said Weiler, an attorney who has handled more than 50 adoption cases, including some involving unmarried biological fathers. “I think this strikes a good balance between the various interests at stake.”
    Weiler’s bill also adds that an unwed father has “at least” one business day after a child’s birth to act to protect his rights, language aimed at addressing a 2007 Utah Supreme Court decision that found it was unconstitutional to not allow extra time when a birth occurs on a weekend or holiday.
    Weiler’s bill was crafted with help from attorney Larry Jenkins, chairman of the Utah Adoption Council’s standards and practice committee. Jenkins, who is being sued by a Virginia father who alleges a vast conspiracy exists in Utah to take children from unwed biological fathers, was unavailable for immediate comment Friday.
    But attorney David Hardy, the council’s past president, said the industry group approved the “general ideas” in the bill.
    “The reason for that is it allows a birth mother to give notice and plan ahead as far as what is going to happen with the child,” Hardy said. “It is something the birth mother may elect to follow, but she can say, ‘I don’t want to.’ It’s not mandatory.”
    The notice provision would have no effect on an unwed father’s responsibility to independently register and begin a paternity action to protect his rights before a mother gives birth.
    Hardy said Weiler’s proposal is modeled after adoption laws in Arizona and Indiana.
    “We understand from adoption practitioners in other states it works well,” Hardy said.
    But in Arizona, mothers don’t have a choice about notification once an adoption action has been filed with the court. They must then identify potential fathers and inform them they are pursuing an adoption.
    Wes Hutchins, an adoption attorney, consulted on Watkins’ bill and believes it is the stronger of the two proposals.
    “Absolutely,” said Hutchins, who is the council’s current president but spoke independently of the group. “It does a better job of protecting the rights of out-of-state birth fathers and preventing birth mothers from forum shopping in Utah.”
    Weiler’s bill reinforces what’s known as the immunity clause in Utah’s adoption law, which says an unwed father cannot use fraud by the birth mother as a defense for his failure to act. It adds language that says once a birth father receives a notice, his responsibility to act remains intact no matter what the birth mother may tell him.
    “If she comes back and says she’s changed her mind, that doesn’t change his responsibility,” Hardy said.
    Neither proposed bill states when in the pregnancy the notice to an unwed father should occur, though Hardy noted “it is not something that works late in the pregnancy” since under Utah law a birth mother may irrevocably relinquish her parental rights and consent to an adoption within a day of giving birth. The proposal may conflict with existing law that gives an out-of-state father 20 days to act when he discovers after the fact that his child was born and placed for adoption in Utah.
    “That’s an open question we may need to look at,” Hardy said.
    brooke@sltrib.com

    © 2012 The Salt Lake Tribune

    Friday, January 27, 2012

    Congratulations!


    Salt Lake Tribune Article
    Utah high court reverses ruling in adoption case of unwed Colorado dad
    Justices’ decision also reinterprets sufficient notice from mothers.
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    Rob Manzanares, shown here with his son, is awaiting a Utah Supreme Court decision on his bid for custody of a daughter born to a former girlfriend and placed for adoption in Utah. Courtesy of Robert Manzanares
    The Utah Supreme Court ruled Friday that a Colorado father was improperly denied a say in his infant daughter’s adoption and sent the case back to a lower court for a rehearing.
    In a split decision that establishes a new ground rule for future cases, a majority of three justices held Robert Manzanares did not know and reasonably could not have known that a birth and adoption would take place in Utah, entitling him to intervene in the proceedings.
    Although Manzanares stated in a paternity petition filed in Colorado months before the birth he feared his girlfriend might flee to Utah, those concerns were “yellow flags” and not the same thing as having knowledge of such a plan, wrote Justice Thomas Lee for the high court.
    Manzanares reasonably relied on birth mother Carie Terry’s assurance, stated in Colorado court filings, that she had no intention of going to Utah to give birth and place their baby for adoption, Friday’s opinion noted. He was unaware the child had been born in Utah until several days after Terry consented to an adoption, the high court said.
    The justices said they were “disavowing” a “potentially confusing” interpretation of what constitutes notice to an unwed father as set out in a 2009 ruling in the case of Wyoming father Cody O’Dea, when they deemed a text message stating “I’m in Utah” to be adequate.
    There is a difference between a belief and actual knowledge, the high court said, and “it cannot be enough to simply establish that the father had ‘notice’ in the sense of suspicion sufficient to trigger a further inquiry.”
    While Utah’s law does not permit an unwed father to use fraud by the birth mother as a defense for failure to protect his rights, the birth mother’s actions and statements are material in determining what he knew about her plans and when he knew it — and thus whether he was required to act before the birth mother gave consent.
    The justices instructed the lower court to determine whether Manzanares met Colorado requirements for establishing parental rights to his daughter and whether he had shown a full commitment to his parental responsibilities.
    Manzanares was nearly speechless after learning of the court’s decision.
    “It is still an uphill battle but as I’ve said from day one, I won’t stop climbing that mountain until I have her in my life,” he said. “I’ve missed so much of her life. It is incredible to know that I could be with her soon.”
    John Hedrick, Manzanares’ Colorado attorney, called the ruling a “step in the right direction. Unfortunately, it is still going to be a tedious process for Rob to achieve his ultimate goal.”
    Hedrick also said the case should now move to Colorado, where Manzanares lives and where he timely filed to protect his parental rights.
    Attorney Larry Jenkins, who represents the adoptive parents, did not respond Friday to a request for comment.
    Manzanares and Terry, both Colorado residents, conceived a child in the summer of 2007. After their relationship ended, Manzanares made clear he opposed adoption and would, if necessary, raise the child on his own. Manzanares provided financial support throughout Terry’s pregnancy.
    On Jan. 11, 2008, Terry sent Manzanares an email stating she planned to travel to Utah in February to visit her sick father and that she would be willing to sit down and talk to him about “your reconsideration to consent for adoption” in April, although the baby was due in late March.
    Five days later, Manzanares filed a paternity action in Colorado, seeking to join any adoption proceeding and telling the court he feared Terry might go to Utah to give birth. In a subsequent court document filed in February, Terry denied she planned to pursue an adoption in Utah and asked the court to terminate Manzanares’ parental rights so an adoption could proceed in Colorado. She also asked the court to reschedule a hearing set for Feb. 20 because of her Utah trip. The Colorado court refused.
    Terry arrived in Utah on Feb. 14, 2008. On Feb. 16, Terry’s brother and sister-in-law signed a petition to adopt the baby, who was born six weeks prematurely the next day. An adoption petition was filed in Utah state court days later.
    Meanwhile, Terry informed the Colorado court on Feb. 20 she was still in Utah visiting a sick relative. Terry did not disclose that she had given birth or that she had appeared that morning in a Utah court and consented to the adoption.
    Terry returned to Colorado on Feb. 24. A day later, Manzanares learned she had given birth and began calling Colorado hospitals in an attempt to locate his daughter. He also called Terry’s brother, who said only that an attorney would be calling him.
    On March 3, after a three-day emergency hearing, a Colorado judge granted Manzanares’ paternity petition and ordered that his name be listed on his daughter’s birth certificate. Manzanares then filed a motion in Utah to dismiss the adoption petition.
    A July hearing on that motion revealed Terry’s “multiple efforts to keep Manzanares in the dark” about her plans and her failure to inform judges in each state about what was happening in the different court hearings. Despite that, the judge found Manzanares had not properly acted to protect his rights in Utah and his consent was not required, leaving the adoption intact. Manzanares appealed.
    Friday’s opinion says the lower court conflated “belief” with “knowledge.”
    “The evidence in the record sustains only one conclusion — that Manzanares did not know and could not have known of a qualifying circumstance in light of Terry’s deception before she executed her consent to adoption,” the opinion said.
    Chief Justice Christine Durham concurred in the majority opinion, adding that in her view although the majority and dissent arrived at different outcomes, both sought to “give full force to the legislature’s intent.”
    But Justice Jill Parrish and Associate Chief Justice Matthew Durrant, who is poised to take the helm of the judiciary as chief justice, dissented. In an opinion authored by Parrish, they lambast the majority for “wholly undermining” legislative intent, providing a “tortured” analysis of the law that will disrupt future adoptions, and disregarding the findings of a lower court judge and previous Supreme Court opinions.
    “Although the result reached by the majority is defensible on basic fairness grounds, it is entirely at odds with the provisions of the Utah Adoption Act and the policy decisions duly enacted by the Utah legislature,” wrote Parrish.
    “The majority allows Mr. Manzanares to upset Baby B.’s adoptive placement even though he was indisputably aware that Ms. Terry was considering a Utah adoption but failed to comply with the relatively simple procedures required to perfect his rights,” the dissent argues.
    brooke@sltrib.comTwitter: @Brooke4Trib

    © 2012 The Salt Lake Tribune



    Thursday, January 19, 2012

    Unfortunately

    Unfortunately court did not go as we hoped on Tuesday. Judge Christiansen said that this case really disturbed him and even had called up Judge Kay in 2nd District and talked with him about the details of this case. Christiansen stated that since Larry Jenkins, and David Hardy went up to 2nd District behind his back, he no longer had jurisdiction over this case. He said the next step would be to petition the adoption up in 2nd District and try to plead our case to Judge Kay and try to get the adoption set aside. There is a grim reality for us that this is the end of these court actions, and our next step after 2nd District would be to appeal to the Utah Supreme Court. We still are baffled because no one has  ruled yet that Jake DID not file timely even though that has been LDS Family Services argument.

    We are still hoping and praying for a positive outcome. We would love more than anything to meet this sweet little boy of ours. There is not a day that goes by that we don't think of Jackson. He is such a special little boy and he will always have a special place in our hearts.

    Thank you so much for all of the sweet words of encouragement. It truly helps us get through some of the days.

    Jackson, we love you so much. One day, you will get to meet your sweet daddy, and the family that loved you first. We love you always and forever.

    Monday, January 16, 2012

    Tomorrow

    We will be in court tomorrow at 1:30 PM in front of Judge Christiansen. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers that he will see the injustice occurring and keep our case alive.

    THANK YOU!

    Thursday, January 5, 2012

    A step in the right direction



    Unwed fathers get help figuring out what to do in adoption fight 
    Adoption • Registry form and instructions made more accessible.
    For an unwed father who wants to know what to do to protect his parental rights in a Utah adoption proceeding, the process just got easier.
    The state Department of Health on Tuesday made the paternity proceeding form and instructions on how to file with Utah’s putative father registry available on the website of the Office of Vital Records and Statistics, which maintains the registry.
    Department Director David Patton said the change and other reforms were prompted by a recent Salt Lake Tribune series highlighting the difficulty unwed fathers and attorneys — especially those from out-of-state — had finding information about the registry.
    The paternity proceeding form now can be found under the “court orders” link on the Vital Records home page, although the information still doesn’t show up when searching the state website for key terms such as “putative father” or “paternity proceeding.”
    There are plans to add information about how to file with the registry to the website’s “frequently asked questions” listing. The form also will now be available at county health departments throughout Utah — a measure required by state law the department hadn’t followed.
    “Frankly, I had not been aware of this issue very much and so the article helped us to review the statute, which I think was our primary concern,” Patton said. “We want to be in compliance with the statute.”
    The online access makes sense, he said.
    Since 1975, Utah has required unwed fathers to file with the state in order to receive notice of an adoption proceeding for a biological newborn child. That requirement was strengthened in 1995, when sweeping revisions were made requiring unwed fathers to initiate a paternity action in court and file a “notice of commencement of paternity proceeding” with Vital Records.
    But scores of unwed fathers, many of whom live in other states, allege Utah intentionally makes it difficult figure out how to protect their rights when they object to an adoption.
    Patton said Tuesday it was his goal to make the form available to anyone who wants it.
    “There is no reason to restrict that access,” he said. “If we can make it available as many places as feasible, that’s not a problem.”
    The move received cautious support from two lawyers who have been involved in putative father issues.
    “The purpose of the putative father registry is to identify putative fathers who are interested in assuming the responsibilities of being a parent in a meaningful and timely way,” said David McConkie, now children’s services manager at LDS Family Services. “The state’s decision to put the registry online will help putative fathers accomplish this and will make adoptive placements more secure.”
    Daniel Drage, a lawyer who has represented out-of-state fathers in custody fights, called it a “step in the right direction” but also expressed concern.
    “These fathers still need to understand that just filing with the registry is not the only step,” Drage said. “Some dads may think it is all they need to do. I hope it is not a bit of a pitfall.”
    Janice Houston, director of Vital Records, said the instruction letter included with the form hopefully alerts fathers they also need to file a paternity action in court. And the form itself asks for the paternity filing case number.
    Houston said the form hasn’t been available online previously because her office’s web page is “very minimal and basic at best” and hasn’t “had the resources devoted to it to put a whole lot of information up there beyond the bare minimum.”
    The office quit providing forms to county health department offices, Houston said, because local offices aren’t involved in adoptions and just forward the forms to the state office.
    “When the form was there, it wasn’t being utilized,” she added.
    Both Patton and Houston also said Tuesday the form has been available through the courts to print out and give to putative fathers. But a court clerk manager and 3rd District Court administrator both said they were unaware of the forms.
    “We don’t have a form,” said Julie Rigby, team manager of the 3rd District Court’s Probate Department, which handles adoption filings. “We would just refer them to the health department. We don’t have anything and never had and wish we did, but we don’t.”
    Houston, who became state registrar in March 2010, said it is her policy to give paternity commencement filings “precedence over everything else in the office.” “When one of these comes in, it’s a drop everything else and put it in,” she said. “It doesn’t sit in a pile and wait.”
    The Utah Supreme Court is currently considering a case in which a Florida father alleges the state’s four-day work week and a tardy filing of his registration by a Vital Records clerk caused him to lose the right to intervene in his daughter’s adoption.
    brooke@sltrib.com
    Putative father registry form goes online
    O To access the online paternity proceeding form, which can be filled out online and then printed, go to: http://1.usa.gov/wGm4w0

    © 2012 The Salt Lake Tribune

    Monday, January 2, 2012

    A glimmer of hope

    We have a small glimmer of hope... We have an upcoming court date. January 17th at 1:30 PM in front of Judge Christiansen. We finally will be heard, and we hope that he feels as disgusted with opposing counsel on part of LDS Family Services, David Hardy, and the adoptive couple, Larry Jenkins, as we do. We have faith that he will do what is right, and intervene in the adoption, and call for an evidentiary hearing again. We really have been beat down these past few weeks, and really need a ray of sunshine.

    If anyone would like to attend, please contact us and we can provide the details.

    Thanks again for all for your continued support through these trying times.

    Sunday, January 1, 2012

    Baby Emma Wyatt appeals to U.S. Supreme Court

    John Wyatt, we truly hope the U.S. Supreme Court hears your case, and overturns the wrongful decisions made by the Utah Court System. God Bless!



    Virginia man asks U.S. high court to hear adoption case
    Laws • Utah judge ruled the father acted too late to protect his rights.
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    Steve Griffin | Tribune file photo John Wyatt listens as the Utah Supreme Court hears arguments in the Baby Emma case in September 2010. Wyatt, of Dumfries, Va., is trying to get custody of his daughter, Emma, who was given up for adoption to a Utah couple by the girl's mother without his consent.
    A Virginia father has asked the U.S. Supreme Court to review his battle for custody of his daughter, arguing his case presents a “head-on collision” caused by conflicting rulings in different states and showcases how Utah’s adoption law is “effectively projecting its authority well beyond its borders.”
    The Parental Kidnapping Prevention Act (PKPA), a federal law that sets a “first in time” rule for interstate custody disputes, is designed to prevent both problems but was “undermined” by the Utah Supreme Court’s July 2011 ruling against John Wyatt, he argues in a petition to the justices.
    When an unmarried father such as Wyatt is in one state and prospective adoptive parents in another, there is great potential for “jurisdictional friction” if more than one state is allowed to address custody issues, the petition states. The petition asks the court to review whether the PKPA applied to the adoption case since Wyatt had filed a timely custody action under Virginia law and whether Utah violated Wyatt’s rights by shutting him out of the adoption proceeding involving his daughter.
    “Given the overriding importance of the interests at stake, it is especially important that the ground rules for multi-jurisdictional adoption disputes be as clear, fair and consistent as the courts — including this court — can make them,” the petition states.
    The U.S. Supreme Court has issued a handful of decisions regarding unmarried fathers’ rights in adoption proceedings, but none of those rulings involved newborn infants. It will likely be six months or so before the court decides whether to grant a review.
    Since 2008, higher courts in Utah have reviewed seven cases involving unwed fathers who lost custody fights despite filing timely paternity actions in their home states to protect their rights. The Utah Supreme Court is weighing a decision in a case involving a Colorado father that involves questions about the PKPA.
    “Obviously, it is an important and recurring issue,” said Clifton S. Elgarten, a Washington, D.C.-based attorney who is representing Wyatt. “The Supreme Court doesn’t take many cases, but we’re hopeful they will see the wisdom of considering this one.”
    Utah attorney Larry S. Jenkins, who represents the adoption agency, said Friday he is still considering whether to file a response.
    Wyatt learned in May 2008 that Emily Colleen Fahland, his then-19-year-old girlfriend, was pregnant. According to court documents, on Feb. 4, 2009, Fahland informed Wyatt by telephone that she had spoken with A Act of Love Adoption Agency, based in Utah. She sent a text message the next day that said: “Do you understand that I’m receiving information from a Utah agency for proceeding with an adoption.”
    But Wyatt said he thought Fahland was just gathering information and that their co-parenting plan was still in place.
    Unbeknownst to Wyatt, Fahland gave birth on Feb. 10, 2009, and a day later signed a document agreeing to waive Virginia law and proceed with an adoption in Utah. Wyatt learned of the birth on Feb. 11 but was initially unable to locate Fahland, who had checked out of the hospital and into a hotel under an assumed name.
    A Utah couple flew to Virginia on Feb. 12 to pick up the infant. That same day, Fahland relinquished her parental rights. Wyatt hand-delivered a letter to the adoption agency’s Virginia attorney on Feb. 12 requesting to see his daughter and take her home. Wyatt said he was told he could see the infant only if he consented to the adoption. He refused.
    Eight days after Baby Emma’s birth, Wyatt filed a custody action in Virginia. By then, the adoptive parents had returned to Utah with the baby and, on Feb. 23, began adoption proceedings here.
    From that point on, court proceedings unfolded in both Utah and Virginia. In Virginia, a judge confirmed Wyatt’s rights to his child. In Utah, a judge ruled Wyatt acted too late to protect his rights since he filed a custody action in Virginia after Fahland consented to the adoption and did not file with putative-father registries in Virginia or Utah until April. The judge also said she saw “no legal basis for deferring” to the Virginia court’s decision that it had jurisdiction in the case.
    In July, the Utah Supreme Court upheld that decision. It also found that Wyatt could not invoke the federal kidnapping law because he had not used it to support his case in the lower court. One justice argued that the PKPA doesn’t apply to adoption disputes.
    In the writ of certiorari, filed Dec. 15, Wyatt notes that the Utah Supreme Court did not say when or how he might have raised the PKPA argument earlier since he was barred from participating in the adoption proceeding. He also argues that Utah requires a father to comply with the law in his home state before a mother consents to an adoption — whether or not that is the same deadline set by his home state.
    “Utah law required that he fulfill Virginia’s requirements more quickly than Virginia itself requires — in this case, before the baby was born and before he knew there would be any contest over his custodial rights, let alone a contest in Utah,” the petition states. The Utah law also “fosters fraud and deception on an unmarried father by the mother or unscrupulous adoption agencies” but then burdens the victim with anticipating such acts, which raises “troubling due-process questions.”
    In fact, Wyatt said he did timely assert his rights under Virginia law, as acknowledged by a judge in that state. The petition also argues that Virginia requires a birth mother to identify and provide notice of a pending adoption to a “reasonably ascertained” father and to wait three days before consenting to an adoption, which are rules Wyatt says Fahland violated.
    The Virginia court, under the PKPA, had jurisdiction to decide who received custody of Baby Emma, Wyatt argues. Instead, the Utah Supreme Court has “re-injected ambiguity and the potential for sharp conflict between states that the PKPA had seemingly eliminated with its jurisdictional command,” Wyatt argues, and “widens a split among state courts” in interpretations of the federal law.
    brooke@sltrib.com

    © 2012 The Salt Lake Tribune

    Thursday, December 29, 2011

    Happy Birthday Jackson

    Jackson,

    Happy Birthday! It has been one long year. We have missed so many milestones with you such as your birth, your first bath, your first cry, your first word, you starting to crawl, and maybe even walk. Our hearts are heavy that we have not been able to see you, know if you are ok, are happy or even healthy. More than anything we hope that you are safe, and ok. We miss you and think about you every single day. We hope to meet you soon, but in the meantime we will keep fighting for you and for all the other voiceless children out there.

    We have created a video for you from your family, and that includes a balloon release we did in honor of your first birthday. We wish more than anything that we would be able to celebrate it with you, but it doesn't look like that is going to happen. We will continue to do a balloon release every year you are not with us.



    Happy Birthday Jackson!
    May all your dreams come true.

    Love,

    Your Family


    

    Monday, December 26, 2011

    Day 3 of Salt Lake Tribune Adoption Stories: Jake Strickland: Baby Jackson Michael Strickland



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    Would-be Utah dad says misplaced trust cost him his son
    Adoption • Law says fraud by mother doesn’t excuse a father’s failure to protect himself.
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    Leah Hogsten | The Salt Lake Tribune Jake Strickland of South Jordan stands in what was to be his son's nursery, designed by his mother Jennifer Graham. He is waging a legal battle to get custody of his son, born Dec. 29, 2010 and placed for adoption a day later.
    As they toured the holiday lights at Temple Square last December, Jake Strickland and Whitney Pettersson looked like just another happy, expectant couple.
    Their baby was due in less than two weeks, and although not married or even in a relationship any longer, they’d decided to raise the child together. Or so Strickland thought.
    A year later, Strickland is embroiled in a desperate, and so far unsuccessful, legal battle to gain custody of his child, born just a day after that visit to Temple Square and swiftly placed with adoptive parents. Strickland is among dozens of men who’ve waged similar fights in Utah, which arguably has the nation’s strictest laws governing unwed father’s rights.
    Among several miscalculations on Strickland’s part, he admits this may have been the biggest one: He trusted Pettersson.
    Read other parts of this series:
    Dec. 25: Stopping an adoption: In Utah, fathers rarely win • http://bit.ly/uT51Tc
    Dec. 26: Utah adoption law: model for nation or unjust burden? • http://bit.ly/vFuYQ8
    The two met in 2009 at a South Jordan restaurant where they both worked. Pettersson openly discussed her rocky marriage and then announced she had divorced, said Strickland, 24. They began dating last January. Three months later, Pettersson sent Strickland a text message: “I’m pregnant.”
    Pettersson, who also has a daughter, was distraught, Strickland said, but he reassured her they’d figure it out together.
    Two weeks later, Strickland left for a temporary job in Texas, where he hoped to make enough money to pay off debt and build up a baby fund. During the months he was away, Pettersson twice tried to end the relationship, expressing doubt he’d stick around. Strickland says he constantly reassured her of his intention to be a dad. Meanwhile, she built ties with his family, attending a baby shower and a birthday party.
    But the pair’s relationship had run its course by August, when Strickland returned to Utah. Even so, the two continued to meet for lunch several times a week. It was at one of those meetings that Strickland pressed Pettersson about where she stood on adoption and mentioned he might sign with Utah’s putative father registry.
    Pettersson became furious and threatened to not let him see his baby, he said, and “told me straight up I didn’t need to and it would be a waste of money, and I stupidly believed her.”
    Strickland was reluctant to spend nearly $3,500 to hire an attorney to handle filings when there was a baby on the way. So he did nothing legally to protect his parental rights.
    Attorney David J. Hardy, who represents Pettersson, declined a request seeking comment for this story. But in remarks not specifically about the Strickland case, attorney David M. McConkie explained Utah’s law puts the onus on fathers to protect their own rights. In fact, Utah law says fraud on the mother’s part does not excuse a father’s failure to protect himself, said McConkie, who helped draft the law.
    “Don’t expect the mother to be the one that’s looking after your interests, to protect your interests, because you’ve got to know that mother may not have the same interests that you do,” said McConkie, who formerly worked with Hardy but now is a manager at LDS Family Services. “You don’t have a legal relationship here. You proceed at your risk.”
    As summer wore on, Strickland said he bought groceries and gave cash to Pettersson, who wasn’t working. He accompanied Pettersson to doctor’s visits, although he nearly always stayed in the waiting room with her daughter. The one exception: August 30, the day an ultrasound revealed the baby’s gender: It was a boy.
    Strickland felt reassured adoption was out as their discussions turned to baby names and how they’d share parenting.
    In October, he gave Pettersson a cashier’s check for nearly $1,000 to cover medical bills. But Strickland said Pettersson put him off when he attempted to accompany her to the last round of doctor visits, claiming she’d already gone or an appointment had been canceled.
    In mid-December, Strickland and Pettersson attended a family Christmas party together, then a baby shower Strickland’s older brother hosted for him. A photo taken afterward shows Strickland and Pettersson cuddling on a couch. They went to a movie on Dec. 27. On Dec. 28, after touring Temple Square, Strickland took Pettersson to meet his grandmother and some cousins. Early the next afternoon, Dec. 29, the two exchanged text messages and Strickland asked how Pettersson was feeling.
    “Good,” she texted back, using a smiley face emoticon for emphasis. And then she wrote that having sex might help make the baby come sooner.
    “LOL, well, that was blunt,” Strickland wrote back.
    “Yeah, well, I kept dropping hints every time we hang out, but you are so dumb to them so I thought I would just say it,” she responded, using a smiley face again.
    “No I heard you, but I don’t think that would turn out well in the end,” Strickland wrote, apologizing.
    His next text message was sent at 2:18 p.m. that afternoon.
    “What are you up to?” he asked.
    Pettersson didn’t respond. Hours later, she gave birth.
    She signed relinquishment papers at 9:45 p.m. on Dec. 30, according to a court filing. Pettersson listed the time of the baby’s birth as 9:18 p.m. on Dec. 29; she’d gone over Utah’s 24-hour waiting period by 27 minutes.
    In the same document, Pettersson affirmed the child was born within a marriage. Contrary to what Strickland said she’d told him, Pettersson and her husband had separated but never divorced. And under Utah law, a married woman’s husband is presumed to be the father of her child, regardless of whether that’s factual.
    “What the law does is it recognizes marriage as a sacred institution, and the law says if a child is born within a marriage, we don’t care who the father of the child is biologically because we are not going to take a child that was born in a marriage and make the child illegitimate except under extreme circumstances,” McConkie said.
    When a married woman pursues adoption, her husband must sign relinquishment papers, too, though he can check an option denying paternity. That’s what Kyle Rathjen, Pettersson’s then-estranged husband, chose to do.
    “I asked what would happen if I didn’t sign and the caseworker said I’d be responsible for the child, for Whitney’s medical bills,” Rathjen said. When he objected to the way Strickland was being misled, a caseworker told him to “stay out of it,” said Rathjen, now divorced from Pettersson. “I wasn’t supposed to tell him anything.”
    But Rathjen’s conscious bothered him and he sent Strickland copies of the signed papers. Pettersson claimed they’d been forged and, once again, Strickland believed her.
    In the days after the baby’s birth, the charade was still on. In text messages Strickland sent to Pettersson between Dec. 30 and Jan. 5, 2011, he continued to ask how she was feeling and about her doctor’s visits. He got the same response each time.
    “Good no change,” she wrote on Jan. 3.
    “Good still all set for the 12th at 7:30 a.m. right? I can’t wait any more!” replied Strickland, who’d been told the baby would be delivered by C-section on that day.
    “Yep,” Pettersson replied.
    Finally, on the evening of Jan. 5, Pettersson sent Strickland a text saying she needed to talk to him.
    Strickland said Pettersson began that phone call by saying she had some news and he wasn’t going to like it. She informed Strickland she’d given birth on Dec. 29 and placed the baby with an adoptive couple a day later. Strickland said he was so shocked he sank to the floor.
    The next day, Strickland initiated a paternity claim.
    During a hearing in May, Cory Wall, Strickland’s attorney, laid out Pettersson’s numerous deceptions. Hardy argued Strickland failed to protect his rights under Utah law and, because the child was born to a married mother, lacked standing to bring a paternity action. He also disputed Strickland’s assertion that Pettersson assured him they would parent together.
    “Such assertions, however, have no bearing on this matter,” Hardy wrote. “Based on the cited statute, petitioner is presumed to know that Ms. Pettersson might place the child for adoption despite earlier intentions to the contrary.”
    But 3rd District Judge Terry Christiansen refused to dismiss Strickland’s petition, calling the situation a “very troubling case.”
    “Assuming the text messages are accurate, there is a deliberate attempt by Ms. Pettersson to deceive Mr. Strickland as it relates to the birth of this child,” the judge said. “There were obvious fraud and misrepresentations occurring.”
    But, after noting Utah’s strict requirements, the judge said, “No matter what I do, I’m either sanctioning a fraud toward Mr. Strickland or I’m depriving adoptive parents of a child I’m sure they’ve grown to love and appreciate.”
    Because the adoptive parents had initiated an adoption proceeding in 2nd District Court, Christiansen asked attorneys — in May and again at a later hearing — to consolidate the cases and figure out which judge should hear them. He put the paternity action on hold.
    But nothing happened, and Strickland said he’s unsure why. Strickland admitted in early November he was wearing down. His life was on hold “until I know if I’m going to get my son back,” he said. “I know my chances of winning are slim to none, if they exist at all. They are getting what they want, running me out of money, emotionally.”
    On Thanksgiving Day, Strickland and his family learned the adoption had been completed, leaving them bewildered, devastated and contemplating their next move.
    “These are small children who are going to grow up to be adults and ask, ‘Why wasn’t I kept with my dad who loved me?’” said Jenny Graham, Strickland’s mother. “Jake is the one who has to look at him in 18 years and say, ‘I wanted you more than anything.’ We’re taking from and destroying one family to create another.”
    brooke@sltrib.com
    Editor’s note
    This is the third of four stories examining adoption in the context of unmarried fathers’ rights under Utah law.
    Taking it public
    Each of these fathers has created websites to publicize their cases and raise awareness about Utah’s putative father laws, which you can find here:
    Jake Strickland • www.getbabyjackback.com
    Cody O’Dea • www.babyselling.com
    Robert Manzanares • www.illegaladoption.com

    © 2011 The Salt Lake Tribune

    Day 2 of Salt Lake Tribune Adoption Articles



    Utah adoption law: model for nation or unjust burden?
    Rights • Fathers have limited opportunity to fight the system.
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    Paul Fraughton | The Salt Lake Tribune David McConkie, who works for LDS Family Services, talks about programs and policies behind putative father registries.
    More than three years after a Utah judge ruled he had failed to protect his parental rights, Rob Manzanares is still fighting for custody of his now nearly four-year-old daughter.
    He has met her just once. The girl’s adoptive parents brought her to a court hearing in December 2009 and, before it began, Manzanares stood in a tiny meeting room and held his daughter for the first time.
    “I didn’t want to cry too much,” he said. “I didn’t want to scare my daughter.”
    At that meeting, Manzanares said he was offered a deal: Drop the legal fight and “there’s an opportunity to have visitation.” He refused and, more than a year after a hearing before the Utah Supreme Court, is still waiting a decision in a case that highlights how competing interests of unwed fathers and social policy can complicate adoption.
    “It is my flesh and blood, she’s my child,” said Manzanares, 34, of Colorado. “I should have a right to raise my child first, over anybody.”
    Related story • Stopping an adoption: In Utah, fathers rarely win • http://bit.ly/uT51Tc
    That is not the way the law sees it, as a Utah Supreme Court justice argued bluntly in 2007:Men who father a child outside of marriage must take steps to assert a legal relationship to a child or “risk losing it altogether.”
    That “biology plus” view is enshrined in a handful of U.S. Supreme Court decisions, as well as adoption laws in Utah and numerous states. Utah’s adoption law explicitly puts men on notice that sex outside of marriage may result in a pregnancy and an adoption. It is up to him alone, the law says, to protect any claim to a child born in those circumstances.
    Perhaps it is due to a lack of awareness, financial resources or simple disinterest, but few do. Some men who have tried to follow Utah law say the state purposefully makes it difficult to comply.
    “It is these rare cases where you have a mom who, for whatever reason, wants to cut dad out of the decision making and a very active dad who wants to participate that makes the news and makes the law,” said Lisa Kelly, a University of Washington Law School professor and co-author of an adoption law textbook.
    They may be rare, but such cases have surfaced with surprising frequency recently in Utah, where marriage is widely seen as a sacred institution and, in adoption cases, rights of unmarried fathers are narrow.
    Unwed fathers had no custody rights at all until 1970, when the Utah Supreme Court found that holding a man financially responsible for his illegitimate offspring also entitled him to “custody and control as against all but the mother.”
    Though just 10.7 percent of all births in the U.S. that year were to unmarried women, a seismic cultural change regarding illegitimacy was already in motion. As more women opted to keep their babies, states began to lean more heavily on unwed fathers to provide financial support for those offspring. At the same time, it left them out of most adoption decisions.
    Then came a ground-breaking 1972 U.S. Supreme Court finding that a state could not remove three children from their father’s care after their mother’s death without a hearing simply because the parents, together for 18 years, had never married. In subsequent rulings, the court recognized Constitutional rights of unwed fathers who have a substantial relationship with their children but held that, sans a legal or substantial relationship, states could require such fathers to take steps, such as signing with a registry, to be entitled to notice of proceedings.
    Utah established such a requirement in 1975 and strengthened it two decades later in sweeping revisions to the state’s adoption law. Reflecting the predominately Mormon Legislature’s view, one lawmaker observed during debate that “it is wrong to have children outside of marriage,” according to a 2009 article in the Journal of Law & Family Studies. A handwritten note on drafting instructions for the legislation read: “Change adoption law as we know it and test the bounds of Constitutional protection for biological fathers.”
    As revised in 1995, the law says fraud by the mother — hiding a pregnancy or a plan to give birth in or pursue adoption in Utah — does not excuse an unwed father’s failure to act. However, it allows an out-of-state father to argue he had no prior knowledge his child would be born in or adopted in Utah, acted within 20 days of discovering the fact to comply with state law and previously protected his rights in his own state.
    In Manzanares’ case, a Utah judge found Carie Terry, his daughter’s mother, deliberately deceived him and concealed information from judges in Utah and Colorado. Despite that, Manzanares’ attempt to derail the adoption failed because, by his own admission, he feared Terry might give birth in Utah but failed to take timely action here, the judge said.
    “We believe the district court ultimately came to the correct decision,” said attorney David Hardy, who represented Terry at a late stage in the case.
    Attorney David McConkie, who helped craft the legislation, calls Utah’s strict law a model for the nation.
    The law requires a two-step process that includes filing with the registry and initiating a paternity action in court, along with submission of a detailed child care plan — though there’s no guidance on how to satisfy that mandate. One father who vowed to “assume all financial responsibilities,” for example, fell short of the mark. The Utah Court of Appeals ruled he had failed to specifically say how he’d earn that money or “identify who will care for the child while he is working to earn that income.”
    Utah’s law is aimed at balancing the interests of all parties — the state, the mother, the biological father, the infant, the adoptive parents, said McConkie, now manager of children’s services at LDS Family Services, which arranges adoptions through its 62 offices in the U.S. and abroad and is owned by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
    “There’s going to be cases where it doesn’t work very well, but you can’t craft a law around a specific case,” said McConkie. “You’ve got to craft a law that meets society’s interests and the parties’ interests more generally.”
    What interests? Privacy, speedily finding homes for infants, ensuring those placements are final, and, most important of all, determining what’s best for a child, he said. Yes, interests sometimes conflict, he said.
    “The mother has one way that she would like to go and the father has a way that he would like to go,” McConkie said. “And that’s a huge issue in this type of legislation — what do you do with this conflict of interest?”
    Terry, for instance, testified in a Utah court hearing that she repeatedly told Manzanares that, despite his objections, she thought their child needed the “two-parent home” that adoption would provide “versus a hostile, stressful, anger situation.”
    Critics such as Erik T. Smith of Ohio, a nationally recognized expert in putative father issues, say Utah’s answer has been to make the “window of opportunity as small as it can be” for unwed fathers to assert rights. But an even bigger problem, according to Smith, is most unmarried men don’t have the slightest inkling what the law requires — and McConkie doesn’t disagree with him.
    At present, there is no information about the registry on the websites of the Utah Department of Health or Office of Vital Statistics, the state division charged with maintaining the registry, and the office won’t mail forms to fathers or their representatives, requiring them instead to appear in person.
    “The thing I think is the hardest about Utah law, and I’m sensitive to this, is that fathers don’t know about it,” said McConkie. “I don’t know how you solve that problem, unless it’s advertised more.”
    Another issue, as numerous unmarried fathers who don’t live in Utah have discovered: a judge in his home state may make a paternity finding but then be unable to address custody because the child resides and is part of an adoption proceeding here. As of 2010, Utah law specifically says a paternity order doesn’t entitle an out-of-state father to participate in such hearings, a change that came after several rulings in Manzanares’ tangled case.
    Manzanares filed a paternity action in Colorado on Jan. 16, 2008, more than a month before his daughter’s birth. On Feb. 20, 2008, the day a hearing was set on the matter, Terry called the court and said she was unable to attend because she was in Utah visiting her sick father. What Terry didn’t disclose is that she’d given birth prematurely in Utah three days earlier and that very morning had signed papers before a Utah judge relinquishing the baby.
    Nine days later, after the child’s birth was revealed, the Colorado court granted paternity, rights and responsibility for the infant to Manzanares. In July, a different Utah judge ordered the infant turned over to Manzanares, only to reverse the decision a week later and order another hearing. While the judge later vacated the court order approving Terry’s consent to the adoption, he ruled in August 2009 that Manzanares had not adequately protected his parental rights here, triggering his appeal.
    Such lengthy court battles are typical and, some say, may erect a final, insurmountable hurdle for unwed fathers: If a father is found to have preserved his rights, a court then weighs his parental fitness and the child’s best interests, including the emotional and psychological impact of disrupting bonds between a child and the only parents he or she has ever known — although the Utah Supreme Court said in a 2007 decision such bonds are “legally irrelevant.”
    The slow process prompted the author of a 2010 article in the Journal of Law and Family Studies to urge lawmakers to expedite adoption hearings, as done in child welfare cases.
    Utah attorney Phil Lowry, who represented a North Carolina father in his failed custody bid, doesn’t expect solutions to such problems any time soon. Unwed fathers are an “under-represented group of individuals. And there are going to continue be problems for them and it is only going to get more aggravated as marriage becomes more fragmented,” he said.
    Editor’s note
    This is the second of four stories examining adoption in the context of unmarried fathers’ rights under Utah law.
    Coming Tuesday • The as yet untold case of Jake Strickland, whose story painfully illustrates there is no defense in Utah law for fathers who may be misled by a mother or agency.
    By the numbers: A look at 2010
    52,164 • Utah Births
    9,891 • Utah births to unmarried women
    41 percent • U.S. births to unmarried women
    19 percent • Utah births to unmarried women
    30 • Filings in Utah’s putative father registry
    1.3 percent • Estimate of unmarried women who choose adoption, U.S.
    Source: Utah Office of Vital Statistics; U.S. Census; Centers for Disease Control and Prevention; Salt Lake Tribune reports
    LDS Family Services
    The agency, a party in at least 10 of the 27 high court decisions reviewed by The Salt Lake Tribune, is owned by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The church urges unmarried women to pursue adoption because they are generally unable to provide a stable, nurturing environment and because “unwed parents are not able to provide the blessings of the sealing covenant.” The faith believes that covenant ties a family together on earth and in heaven.
    Excerpts from Utah court rulings
    “It is conceivable, however, that a situation may arise when it is impossible for the father to file the required notice of paternity prior to the statutory bar, through no fault of his own. Due process requires that he be permitted to show that he was not afforded a reasonable opportunity to comply with the statute.”
    “Those who conceive children outside the bonds of marriage may be loving parents, but experience teaches that the number of illegitimate children born each year contribute disproportionately to many of the serious social problems with which society must cope.”
    Utah’s law “was not created to encourage a ‘race’ for placement to cut off the rights of fathers who are identified and present, but who are hours late in registering their claims because of ignorance of their statutory obligation.”
    [The statute] “does not distinguish between fathers in a monogamous relationship who are led to believe mother, father, and baby will form a family unit, and ne’er-do-wells who have nothing to do with the mother after a casual fling that culminates in conception.”
    “We also hold that the phone call made to Mr. O’Dea in which Ms. Olea stated ‘I am in Utah’ gave him adequate inquiry notice that a qualifying circumstance existed” and he needed to comply with Utah law.
    “Because the Natural Father failed to file his paternity action within the time required by New Mexico law, he did not establish his status as an acknowledged father, and the later paternity order was of no force or effect.”

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