We have proposed an offer to LDS Family Services (the adoption agency who placed Jackson) that if they will return him now, I, my family and friends are willing to help LDS Family Services with civil or criminal fraud charges against Whitney, by providing our testimonies, supporting text messages, emails, copies of money orders, receipts, letters and affidavits. This will allow for the Service to set precedence that they will not allow children to be placed for adoption through deception and fraud. We will also work with my lawyer, the Service and the Utah State legislation to change the current adoption laws to protect all parties of adoption, the children, both bio parents and the adoptive parent(s).
This proposal is not only in Jackson’s best interest and the Service’s interest, but the adoptive couples as well. This couple came to LDS Family Services in good faith to adopt a baby to complete their family. The Service knew on January 6th, 2011 that this child was not given up for adoption with consent from his biological father, it was being contested and there were numerous questionable issues regarding Whitney and their agencies actions. Throughout this entire process, the length of time which it takes to get a court date, follow up for the DNA testing and so forth, this couple was taken out of the system for another child. Now if pushed to the new court date, seven and a half months later this baby whom they have grown to love and adore will be rightfully returned to his father.
Whitney, LDS Family Services, the system, and the laws have compounded the time and injustice caused to Jack, me and this couple by not moving in a swift, effective and efficient manner.
It is not justice to continue this for another day. Jack should be returned home to me and the couple should be given a child who has been rightfully placed for adoption by both the bio parents. This will allow for both our families to start on the path to recovery from this devastating and very emotional last six and a half months. There cannot be and should not be the destruction of one family to create another, and I do not believe that is what this couple wanted when they came to LDS Family Services to apply for an adoption.
I understand that adoption is a wonderful selfless act; I also know and have seen the great and wonderful blessings that come from adoption. But, I did not place my son for adoption.
When Jack is returned home to me, I am more than willing to allow the couple to visit and see him. I understand that this is, will be, the most devastating thing to happen to them, because I have been living it for six and a half months and I would not wish this pain and heartache on anyone.
There have been so many followers to this blog and I am so appreciative of the support and love that you have shown. I understand that this is a very difficult thing to read and see and not be emotional, it brings up a lot of questions. I would just like to say only that yes this is my side and there are always two and sometimes three sides to every story. This one has many, and I cannot provide all the information here from each. Though I can say I have always loved and wanted my son, I was with and supported Whitney throughout her pregnancy. I am a honest, hard working man who will and can provide for my family.
Thank you to my family and friends and unknown supporters and even to those who have questioned me and my intentions. Those questions and concerns are valid to have as someone who is on the outside looking in. They have made me stronger and will ensure that I do stand up and do the right thing for my son, myself, family and friends.
You're a good man Jake, but your "Aunt" Kim and I have always known you would be. We are glad to hear the news and hope that this injustice will come to a close very soon. Please let us know if you need anything, or if there is anything that we can do to help.
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I hope things go well in court and your little boy is back with you where he belongs very soon.
ReplyDeleteYay that's so exciting, I think that's great that your still going to let the adoptive parents in his life. Are you going to go after whitney?
ReplyDeleteMany are praying for you. I know you will prevail with God's help. I think it is wonderful (amazing, really!) that you are so understanding towards those who have put you and your son through such hell.
ReplyDeleteI have been following your blog from the beginning, I hope you close this chapter of your life, happily, very soon. I agree with the comment above about how open hearted and minded you are to all that are involved. And was wondering, have you been allowed to have any contact with the adoptive family? And are they as understanding to your situation as you are to theirs? I pray with all my heart your son with be home with YOU soon. Best wishes!
ReplyDeleteAdoption is only a good thing when it is necessary, when a child does not have a parent who is capable and willing to be a parent to them. You are Jack's father, plain and simple, and there was absolutely no reason for him to be put up for adoption. It is kind of you and your friends and family to feel bad for the adoptive parents and family, to feel sorry that they will lose their adopted son so that he can be raised by his natural family but quite frankly, they should not have kept him from you in the first place. As soon as there was any question that the adoption was not legal or consented to by both parents, Jackson should have been returned to you. I don't think I could be as Christian as you all in my feelings towards the adoptive family. In my opinion, they should be ashamed of themselves, Whitney should be too, a million times over. Best of luck in court. I hope your little boy is back where he belongs as soon as possible.
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